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By CysterWigs Contributor
Do you find it difficult to say the word “no?” If you shook your head yes, you’re not alone. A lot of people, especially women, find it really hard to refuse obligations or people. And when they do say no, they might end up feeling miserable about it. Some of us might have been taught to be accommodating and always agreeable. And that’s okay–sometimes. But when saying “yes” all the time starts to take a toll on your physical, mental and emotional health, it might be time to reevaluate and learn how to use that two-letter word instead.
For some, the word “yes” is like a pre-set which slips out even when your heart wants to say no. If you often feel bad for saying no, don’t worry. There are many ways to reduce the guilt that might come with saying it. Here is how you can start saying “yes” to the people and things that you really want to invest your time and energy in.
Understanding your priorities will keep your mind clear and will help you to make a firm decision. People are more inclined to say yes even if they want to say no because their priorities are not defined.
For example, if you set a priority of spending time with your family in the evening, it becomes easier to say no to work during that time, no matter what. But unless you set a priority, you are likely to get confused between agreeing and disagreeing. So whenever you find yourself in a dilemma, know your priority and it will be easier for you to make a decision.
Hectic work schedules, bad relationships and fearful situations can leave you feeling devastated. Under such stressful situations, you are likely to say no for yourself, but the way you say it can leave you feeling guilty.
Being courteous with your response can help ease the guilt. No matter how difficult the situation is, being courteous will give you a clear advantage. Not only will it help you stay calm, but it can also help diffuse things before they have a chance to get out of hand.
If you find it difficult to say no to friends, relatives and coworkers, setting a boundary often helps. Think about a specific relationship that is very draining to you and set a boundary for your time or level of emotional involvement. Once the boundary is crossed, you will know that it’s time to say no. If boundaries keep getting crossed, it will become fairly evident quickly that it’s time to walk away from that situation or that person altogether.
Toxic relationships often lead to stress and depression. It is important to get rid of people and situations that make you uncomfortable. Instead of agreeing to something that you don’t want to do and then facing the consequences, it is best to set a boundary and refuse after a certain point. Know that if you have a strong relationship, it will withstand your disagreement. In fact, it can generate more respect for you and help make your bonds even stronger.
Another way to get out of the awkwardness of a disagreement is to offer a different proposal. Understand that you are not offending someone and there is no need to feel guilty about something that you actually don’t want to do. But you can always offer an alternative if you feel up to it.
For instance, if someone wants to work with you on a project and you are not interested, you can recommend the person to someone who you think would be a better fit. If an old friend wants to meet at a noisy bar and that’s not your scene, you can offer them to meet at a nearby coffee shop instead. In both cases, offering an alternative often works by helping to make the situation more ideal for you instead of being at the mercy of others.
Not that you owe anyone one, but sometimes, a no goes down easier with one. For example, if someone asks you to come over and help them with a garage sale all day Saturday at the last minute and you planned to get some rest and recharge that day, you can say “I will not be able to help you because I already have a prior commitment.” Don’t apologize or waver. It’s not your fault that they didn’t plan for the occasion. Just make it clear that you are unable to help.
This can work when it comes to our personal goals as well. Say you have a goal to not eat fast food during the week because you’re trying to save money and reach your health and wellness goals. You can have an explanation for yourself. So when you’re tempted to order out, think about those goals you set and say them out loud. Doing this can help you reach your objectives in no time.
Whenever you face a situation where you know you’ll agree because it’ll be too hard to refuse, think about what it will cost you if you give in. Nothing in life is free. You’ll either be either spending your time, money or even sacrificing your health over something that you really don’t want to do.
Evaluate if it’s all really worth it and you’ll be able to make a firm decision. Some people are good at manipulating others in an effort to get what they want. Don’t allow someone like that to play you or drain you of your time and energy.
Being true to yourself will help you to refuse or reject something efficiently. Sometimes, we agree to something due to the fear that we will lose a friend or an opportunity. In the end, this leaves you feeling stressed or anxious. If you are in a relationship that brings pain and disappointment, it is important to get out of it, no matter how hard it is to say no. If you don’t like anything that someone is doing, simply tell them that it’s hurting you instead of putting up with their antics. After all, it’s your life and you are the only person responsible for your happiness.
If someone who you consider to be a friend or partner refuses to respect you or your boundaries, they should no longer be a priority or a part of your life. There’s no point in holding on to a relationship that only makes you feel terrible. Never feel guilty for saying no, especially to your loved ones. If they truly care about you and your well-being, they’ll definitely understand and respect your decision.
Tips to help you lock in that “no.”
It’s possible to say no and not feel guilty about it. If you still think this won’t come easy to you, here are some tips that might help make the process easier.
● Avoid apologizing for refusing anything, but be polite while saying no.
● Avoid telling a lie just to refuse something as it will lead to guilt and make you feel miserable.
● It is always better to directly disagree or refuse something than to ask for some time to think. It will make the situation worse for you by extending it for longer.
● Plan ahead of situations where you would want to refuse. Practice how you will say no to a certain situation. It could be difficult to decide at the moment, therefore, think of all the possible situation and prepare yourself.
● Value yourself over everything else as you don’t want to grow resentful. It better to stay away from a toxic person or situation than to suffer.
● Assist people by redirecting them to other people or resources for help. This is a good way to communicate that you are not their one and only option every single time.
Practicing to say no can be difficult, but it is not impossible. Once you learn how to do it, you will start feeling more in control of yourself and your life. So challenge yourself and pledge to stand up for yourself so you can feel happier and more free.
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By CysterWigs Contributor
When it comes to achieving the hair growth we long for, it isn’t unnatural to want to try something different to achieve results. But sometimes, things may get a bit…well…strange! From copious amounts of brushing to crazy positions to get a few extra inches fast, here are five of the craziest hair growth myths that you should definitely steer clear from.
Actually, this couldn’t be further from the truth. Trimming the ends of your hair hold tons of benefits. It gets rid of scraggly and thinning ends, stops split ends from traveling up your hair shaft and of course, makes your ends look thicker and healthier. However, trimming your ends has absolutely no effect on how fast your hair grows.
The truth is this – trimming does have the ability to eliminate damage before it causes major breakage, meaning that your healthy strands are given the chance to grow longer without breaking off at the ends. This in turn creates the illusion that your hair is growing faster, but it actually isn’t! It’s just helping to retain length better.
Eggs are indeed a great source of protein for your hair… if you’re eating them. In fact, the protein molecules found in raw egg are much too large to penetrate into the hair shaft to offer rebuilding and strengthening from within. Instead, they remain on the outside of the hair shaft and wear away bit by bit – by your next hair wash, they may very well be long gone! For a true protein treatment that promotes the hair growth you desire, opt for a product containing hydrolyzed protein.
You’ve either read about it in stories or seen it on television – the image of a woman brushing her hair before bed. But do you really need to brush your hair before bed each night to see growth? Absolutely not. Brushing your hair may make it look smooth and shiny, and makes for a tangle-free mane, but too much brushing or combing of your hair can actually damage your hair strands! This wear and tear is often the culprit of breakage over time…the exact opposite of healthy hair growth!
The ‘inversion method’ has made its name on hair care forums all across the web. It boasts double your monthly hair growth by increasing blood flow to your scalp by turning your head upside down for a few minutes every night for a week. It’s no secret that the scalp needs constant blood flow to bring nutrients to your hair follicles, but you can avoid the dizziness, headaches and nausea that has been known to accompany the inversion method just by giving yourself a good old scalp massage with a stimulating oil like peppermint oil.
There’s only one way to get rid of pesky split ends, and that’s to cut them off. You can mix as much unicorn tears, vibranium and fairy dust as you please, but they can’t be fixed. Your hair will appear much more hydrated and shiny, lessening the appearance of splits, but the only way to really wave goodbye to split strands is to put down the mixtures and pick up those scissors. Sure, your hair will be a bit shorter, but it’ll be much healthier, too.
It’s super easy to get caught up in the newest hair growth fads that pop up every few months, but there’s nothing worse than wasting your time, money and ingredients on hair growth ‘hacks’ that don’t work. Stick to the tried and true methods that have worked for you. You’ll be much happier in the end.
Hi folks Kathleen here with a review of Celebrity by Raquel Welch. This Celebrity is from my personal collection and one I’ve had for awhile. I will not only give you my thoughts on her but how she has held up. She was one of my first “longer” wigs. I had fallen in love with this color Glazed Fire R28s+ from my RW wig Voltage and couldn’t wait to get another RW wig in Glazd Fire R28S+. I was sold on getting Celebrity once I saw Heather’s review.
The length is very wearable…the nape is 6 inches and is a great length to try if you haven’t worn longer styles before.
Image 3 is a collage I made when I first received Celebrity so this is how she looked right out of the box. She is a shake and go wig if you like. I always play with my wigs but what is so nice about this one is you don’t have to. That’s refreshing since lately I’ve received a few wigs that need a lot of attention before they are wearable. The front of Celebrity is a bit more formal and the sides and back are more loosely curled. A beachy wave really. Actually her formal front and informal back reminds me of Raquel Welch’s new Simmer in that sense.
The hair fibers have a medium denier. The shine is average as well. The hair density is realistic. Even though this is a hand tied wig there is plenty of hair to get some nice volume on top. This does not have a flat top. I like that about Celebrity.
On me she just grazes the shoulders and for reference I’m 5’5”☺️
Why bother with the expense of a hand tied wig? I ask myself thar all the time until I put one on and swear (for a brief moment 😉) I will only wear 100% hand tied wigs from now on. The number one reason you might think is realism but for me its comfort. I have bio hair but its so thin. Wefts definitely can get itchy at times. Celebrity is a dream to put on and wear. She is so soft.
Image 7 & 8 & 9 showcases her monofilament features.
Look at mage 9 such a very realistic lace front and mono top here. Not perfect just like in real life. Celebrity is on a wig head and she still looks soooooo realistic. She will not disappoint you. I found the lace to be relatively soft. I have a three The New Romantics by RW and the lace fronts on those are fairly stiff and scratchy. Celebrity is deluxe in every way.
This color…a gorgeous Irish Red. A rich vibrant highlighted light to medium copper. Raquel Welch doesn’t offer this color on her newer styles which is a shame. I love this color. I have a neutral undertone to my skin and every time I wear this Glazed Fire my skin takes on even more of a peachy tone than it normal has. Basically a neutral undertone will be the same as your surface skin color. In my case my skin on the surface looks peachy and my undertone is peachy and picks up what ever color I am wearing and this includes hair (wig) color. 😊
Image 12 illustrates where the weight of Celebrity’s style is. She is a bit top heavy/full around the upper third of your face and then gradually tappers off towards the ends. Since I have an oblong face I like some volume on the sides to balance my face shape.
Some of my wigs tend to dry out even if I have hardly worn them. Time not just how many times you’ve worn and cleaned your wig ages them. Sometimes the silicone manufacturers put on their wigs to make them silky and soft wears off just by playing with them or you wash it once and they are never the same. They become very dry and require a lot of Jon Renau Detangler and Simply Stylin silicone spray. Well Celebrity feels as soft as she was when I first got her. Sure she’ll tangle but not very much and a little spray from JR’s Detangler a quick comb through and she’s ready to go. I have worn her at least two dozen times and have washed her 3 o 4 times and she is holding up very well.
If you can treat yourself to a hand tied wig you couldn’t do any better than Celebrity. Her length and curls are very flattering. The workmanship is beautiful. The lace front and mono top are very realistic. Its nice to know she is durable. Often we make a review but couldn’t tell you its durability. Well with Celebrity I can say I am as happy with her as the day I received her. Enjoy!