How to Talk About Hair Loss

By CysterWigs Contributor

It can be hard enough when you look in the mirror and see that you are losing your hair, but it can be even harder when you’re trying and failing to hide it from others. Whether it is a slight upwards glance during a conversation or full blown unsolicited advice, you need to get comfortable talking about hair loss and you might need to do it fast.

Nobody wants to talk about something that’s affecting their self esteem. But the topic of hair loss might have the boldest strangers engaging with you. If you’re lucky, it will be a shared moment where they offer comfort using their own experience. On the other hand, you could be bombarded with questions and advice that might be rude or even useless.

Here are a few tips to help you navigate around this touchy subject.

Set your boundaries

This is easier to do with close friends and family than people you don’t know. Initially, when you start to notice your hair loss, then you can decide if you want to talk to those close to you individually or as a group to let them know what you are going through. You can use this time to explain that you are dealing with your hair loss in the best way that you see fit.

During this time, you may choose to seek out their advice, or you might want to ask that people refrain from giving you any. However you choose to approach it, make sure that you are very clear and do not let anyone make you feel bad about your decision.

Be honest

You often find through conversation that many people have been down the same road as you. If the opportunity arises, use your current situation to educate others within reason, but also bear in mind that you don’t really have to explain yourself to anyone.

Don’t take it personally

There will be stares and people who make harsh comments, but remember, this is a reflection of them rather than you. Never internalize other people’s thoughts or feelings and stay strong in knowing that your hair is only a small part of who you are.

And if all else fails you could always make a t-shirt stating the facts or hand out business cards with all the information you want to give out about your hair loss, saving you having to tell the same story time and time again. Hey if you’re bold enough, it couldn’t hurt. 😉

My First Year in Wigs: What I have learned – Part Two by Rachel

Part 2. Believe me! Don’t use that brush on synthetic hair!

Well I just finished up my very first full year of wearing wigs! It has been QUITE a journey and I have learned a lot about what does and doesn’t work for me. Here’s another thing that I’ve learned during my year of wearing wigs.

After I got past the whole issue of purchasing a long heat friendly synthetic as my first wig, I learned another valuable lesson in wig wearing. Even though you are going to be tempted to use that detangling wet brush on your synthetic wig, DON’T DO IT!

My next two wigs I purchased on my journey were Miranda by Jon Renau and Rachel by Jon Renau. Both of these styles were actually pretty curly out of the box. When you get a curly wig, the curls tend to be VERY defined right out of the box because they were just styled at the manufacturer. Now the styling is in your hands. Many of us wig wearers don’t like to wear those well-defined curls right out of the box. We like to separate them a little bit so they’ll look a little more natural and “self-styled” before we wear them out in public. So what did I do with those luscious curls right out of the box? I took a Wet Brush and brushed straight through the curls to separate them. Well, that TOTALLY backfired. *facepalm*

When you brush through a wig (even with a great detangling brush like Wet Brush) it over-separates the beautiful curls on the wigs. So instead of having natural-looking curly wigs, I ended up with poofy afro-like wigs. It was a total bummer and took a lot of work to even make them wearable in public. Especially the Rachel style by Jon Renau. It took a lot of wetting, combing, and silicone spray to get it in wearable shape.

So what are you really supposed to do to separate those curls? Use your fingers! I honestly wouldn’t even recommend a wig comb for this. I have a couple curly wigs that have NEVER had a comb touch them. I only use my fingers for Mila and Girl Mono. Longer wavy or very loosely curled wigs like Blaze will definitely require a light combing (with an actual wig comb) after wearing it, but don’t over do it! If you just take it easy, you can avoid a frizzy mess!

So again, I leave you with this advice. Avoid using brushes on your wigs, folks! They will make you sad!


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You can see all of Rachel’s posts here. Part one of the series is located here and part three is here.

My First Year in Wigs: What I’ve Learned – Part One By Rachel

Part 1. Don’t let your first wig be a long heat friendly synthetic. You will be sad. Very sad.

Well, I just finished up my very first full year of wearing wigs! It has been QUITE a journey and I’ve learned a lot about wig wearing and what works for me. Here is one of the many things that I have learned over the last year.

My very first wig purchase was VERY impulsive and full of so many emotions. Almost anyone could have lead me down the wrong track or got me to spend a million dollars and I probably would have done it. I just wanted to feel confident about my hair again.

I had lost a ton of hair from Alopecia Areata and went to my high school reunion. I felt so unhappy with myself over my hair. I hardly had any confidence with the tiny amount of hair I had left. After the reunion was over and I got home, I went straight to a local salon that sold wigs. I knew absolutely nothing about wigs so I wanted someone to educate me for a couple of hours so I could come out with a bachelor’s in wig wearing. Well, instead I left that salon with a $400 long heat friendly synthetic wig and some supplies to take care of it. I was told if I was used to curling and heat styling my hair everyday (which I was) then I would need a heat friendly wig I could style with heat tools. WRONG.

Within one week the wig was a tangled frizzy mess and I cried (and cried some more) because not only had I lost almost all my hair, but I had a new opinion that wigs ABSOLUTELY SUCKED since they cost way too much money and only could last about a week. I wondered how in the world anyone ever got away with wearing wigs on a regular basis.

Well, luckily, I quickly found Heather’s videos for CysterWigs on YouTube. I even found a video of her reviewing the exact wig I had purchased at the salon which she recommended to NOT use as an everyday wig. *facepalm*. I wished those folks at the wig salon had been as honest with me as Heather is in her videos! I should also mention that the $400 wig I purchased in the salon is only $240 at CysterWigs. This was a HUGE lesson learned for me.

I learned that heat-friendly synthetic fibers are totally different from the fibers on regular synthetic wigs. The heat friendly fibers are much more likely to tangle and snag on clothing from friction and they are more difficult to untangle than regular synthetic fibers.

So what did I do next? I watched about a MILLION (okay seriously…maybe 100?) videos that Heather made on YouTube to help me decide which wigs I needed next. The attention to detail, explanations and honest opinions that she provided about the wigs she sells helped me make very informed decisions when buying my next few wigs. I also started saving a TON of money by purchasing from CysterWigs instead of purchasing at the local salon. I received better information and better pricing just by becoming an online CysterWigs shopper!

As for long heat-friendly synthetic wigs? I still believe they do have a time and a place for wear. They are, personally, not my first choice. For a weekend wig or a wig that you want to heat style every once in awhile, they’re great! Short heat-friendly synthetic wigs are a totally different animal. I actually love them and am not at all afraid to wear them on a daily basis if they don’t hit my clothing or shoulders because that means they are much less likely to tangle. Short heat- friendly synthetic wigs are fun to heat style! Here is a video about styling a short heat-friendly synthetic wigs:

If you are about to make your first wig purchase I highly recommend not buying a long heat-friendly synthetic wig right out the gate. There are a lot of options for regular synthetic wigs out there and the wonderful people at the CysterWigs help desk can help you find an easy to wear style that works for you. Also be sure to check out the CysterWigs YouTube channel for informative wig reviews, color spotlights and more.

Help desk: support@cysterwigs.zendesk.com


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You can see all of Rachel’s posts here. Part two of this series is located here and part three is located here.

How To Cope With Hair Loss

Losing your hair can be a very difficult life event. You might feel isolated or like nobody understands what you’re going through. But honestly, more than 80% of people will experience some form of hair loss during their lifetime. So that means you are not alone.

Hair loss can occur for a number of reasons–many of those reasons are even out of your control. But the process can still bring about feelings of shame and embarrassment, especially if you feel like your hair styling options are very limited. Thanks to wigs and toppers, you actually do have two solid options for helping to restore your confidence despite your hair loss. If you haven’t considered them before, it’s time that you do.

Wearing a wig or even a topper is not a last resort. Instead, it’s a way to take back your strength and prove that hair loss doesn’t have any power over you.

Even if you don’t choose to cover your hair, know that your story can be an inspiration and help build courage in yourself and others. Remember, you are more than your hair and losing it should not stop you from living the life you want or deserve.

After the initial period of adjustment, many women find that they have tapped into a new reserve of resilience that they never knew they had. They are able to seek solutions to problems that once would have rattled them much easier.

So don’t see hair loss as the end. Instead, look at it as the beginning of a new chapter. It’s up to you to decide exactly what the story will be. There is hope, there are options and you will always be the same person–hair or not.

The great thing about wigs and toppers is that they’re not just for people experiencing hair loss. They’re for anyone who wants to change their style. So just because you have a few wigs in your closet, does not mean they are a beacon to let people know what’s going on. They also shouldn’t be viewed as a negative. In fact, wigs are constructed so well these days that most people won’t even realize that you’re wearing one. And even if they do, they will never know your reason for wearing one–unless you want them to.

Instead of seeing this as a method to cover your hair loss, use it as a tool to showcase your personality and your strength. Whether you choose to go with extravagant styles or keep it as simple and as close to your previous hairstyle, your wig is only as important as you want it to be and does not define you.

Some people’s hair will grow back and for others it will be a permanent change, but don’t let it affect your character or hold you back.

Wigs and Dating: Trimming the Stigma

By Morgan

The dating game isn’t the easiest to play. There’s a lot of effort that goes into the first few months of getting to know people and choosing how much information you give up in the process (old exes, your punk rock phase or the slight obsession that you have with cats) is ultimately up to you. But there are a few things you should never be shy about. One of those things is how you express yourself. And self-expression includes your wigs.

Dating with Wigs

When it comes to your makeup, shoes, clothes and accessories, you should feel completely comfortable with flaunting your innate style with anyone surrounding you! And the same rules apply if you like to wear wigs.

Wigs, like any other accessory, outfit, or hairstyle, are a part of your personality. And they’re becoming increasingly popular not just for hair loss, but for stylistic flexibility that allows for both men and women to bounce between looks. And when it comes to dating, just like removable makeup, wigs are just another extension of yourself.

Finding Confidence While Dating with a Wig

If you’re a little nervous about how your date will react to you wearing a wig, you can arm yourself with the basic fact that a wig is just another element of style. It’s as simple as that.

But honestly, there’s no need to explain yourself. In any dating situation, if the opposite party doesn’t accept you for who you are or what you wear, it’s time to move on and find someone better. Because odds are, their own lacking confidence and questioning the decisions of those around them isn’t going to be a great contributor to a new relationship.

Already Dating Someone and Want to Start Experimenting With Wigs?

If you’ve been wanting to step into the wig world and see what this delightfully hairy business is all about, you may have been a bit nervous to begin—especially if you already have a partner. Wondering what they’d think about you wanting to try a wig may be preventing you from taking new stylish steps.

When you’re feeling up to the conversation, it’ll be much easier than you think. It can go like this:

“I wanted to start exploring different hairstyles, and have been thinking about trying out a few different wigs or wig toppers. How do you feel about that?”

Odds are, there will be no hesitation. But if you get any negative pushback, that’s a bit of a relationship red flag. Remember that if you want to do something—wear a wig, get a piercing, or take up something new—don’t let anyone or anything hold you back. Stick to your roots, and let your true self shine through!


You can see all of Morgan’s posts here.