I want to let it be known that this is a place where we should all come together to be supportive of one another in our respective hair journeys, whether or not we support (or understand) each others’ life paths. This could be a fabulous opportunity to learn from one another, provided we maintain respect for each other’s boundaries.

That goes both ways, y’all. No preachy stuff, but in exchange, give folks space if it seems like they need it; they’ll come around in their own time or they won’t – that’s their right

I’ve always been under the impression that the best way to foster compassion is to show people just how loving and caring you are instead of just focusing on all the things you disagree about. You have hopes, dreams, and people in your life you care very deeply about. You’re a complete package, and by sharing these parts of yourself in casual encounters, the commonalities between you and those you think you have so little in common with become much more difficult to ignore!

I feel like we can love each other and suspend judgement . . . and make this about helping each other feel our best during the times in our lives when we may physically and emotionally feel our worst. We can lift each other up to help each other feel our most beautiful. How cool is that? 🙂

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I (Heather) tried them on! 🙂

These distinctions have more to do with aesthetics than the measurements (see below).

Ultra-Short =

never needs to be combed, the shortest wigs on the market, top usually cannot be tucked behind the ears, extremely short nape (< 3”)

Short =

may occasionally need to be combed, top can be tucked behind the ears, short nape (no measurement cutoff here)

Mid-Length =

Falls anywhere on most people from right below the jaw to up to 2” below the shoulders

Long =

Wig falls below the shoulders (so, longer than mid-length, though some in this category could be considered longer mid-length) to around the mid-back on most women

Ultra-Long =

FRONT of the wig (which is usually shorter due to layering) is very long and extends past the breasts of most women, BACK of wig extends beyond the waist on most women

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By Heather Hershey

What you’ll need:

1 capful liquid fabric softener — your choice of brand / scent (doesn’t matter)

optional: wig shampoo

a clean sink


a towel

a plastic wig stand

a wide-toothed comb

silicone serum

optional: protectant / sealer / glosser

1. Fill the sink with lukewarm water

2. Add a capful of liquid fabric softener and (optional) a little wig shampoo to the water. Swish to mix.

3. Use wide-toothed comb to gently detangle wig, starting at the bottom of the hair and working your way up to the top.

4. Once detangled, add the wig to the water and gently swish around. Be careful not to scrub, wring, or otherwise be rough with the hair, as this promotes static buildup and tangling.

5. You may allow the hair to soak for up to 20 minutes if the water only has fabric softener in it. If shampoo was added, you may want to skip the soak.

6. Remove the wig from the water and place it on a towel.

7. Empty the sink and refill with clean water.

8. Submerge the wig again and gently swish to rinse.

9. Repeat steps 6, 7, & 8 until the water comes out clean. Empty the sink.

10. With the wig rinsed thoroughly in still water (as described above), remove it from the water, and place it on the towel, then place the plastic wig stand in the sink and position the wig on it. Allow wig to dry for about an hour.

11. While wig is damp, spray lightly with the silicone serum on the top and work from the top to the bottom of the strands with your fingers. Continue to let the wig dry on the stand until the rest of the way dry.

12. Optional: Once wig is dry, spray the ends very lightly with the sealer spray and comb through with the wide-toothed comb.

13: Lightly comb with wide-toothed comb when wig is dry, and that’s it! 🙂

Most wigs will only need to be washed about twice a month. We recommend using dry shampoo in between washings to keep your hair smelling awesome and feeling fresh.

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From a YouTube comment:

Hi Heather, I have a Reese by Noriko but can’t wear it because of the perma-tease. It looks like I’m wearing a football helmet, lol. Anything I can do to decrease this perma-tease?

Well, in all seriousness, the best way to do this is to avoid buying permateased wigs. Now, I know that sounds like a gigantic cop-out, but it really isn’t. Here’s why:

Decreasing the permatease in this wig will cause it to lie flat. In a style like Reese, that will completely change the entire style of the wig. That wig is supposed to be a voluminous, layered shag.

If you were able to remove the permatease completely, such as by steaming it straight or by – YIKES! – pulling it out (which I have heard people have done!), you would find the wig completely unwearable. It would be destroyed, because the permatease not only gives the wig body, but it hides the wefts on the top of the cap. Without it, those tracks can easily become exposed, which is a common problem with wigs with lighter amounts of permatease.

Some companies that make wigs with smaller amounts of permatease in the cap (like Jon Renau, for instance) strongly advise against moving the part in the hair from where it is when you get your wig, because that is usually the only part of the wig with enough permatease to cover the tracks on the top of the cap well enough so that the wefts don’t show through. They don’t do this to be cheap or chintzy, mind you. They do this because so many customers demand wigs with minimal amounts of permatease, and they are simply responding to that demand the best way they can.
Remember: Permatease is a key structural component of any wig where you find it, just like the monofilament is in a mono wig.

So while you can steam it to flatten it out, or apply a bunch of styling product to the top of your wigs to keep flyaways under control, you’ll want to accept these for what they are.

In this specific example, Noriko wigs are ALWAYS kind of voluminous and rounded. That and layering are what that brand is known for, honestly. (Though at one time, they were also known as pioneers in rooted coloring on synthetic hair . . . but now everyone does it!) The Amore line is a much better bet if you want to stay within that color palette and away from the permatease poof. Just remember, there’s no way to get the kind of volume you’ll find in a wig like Reese WITHOUT that permatease, so all of the Amore wigs (which are mono top) will be a little flatter and conservative by comparison. 😉

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Product Listing:
Reese by Noriko

This article is going to concentrate mostly on the second form of wig anxiety, since the first form is the one most familiar to everyone and the one most likely to fix itself with time and patience. This is not a real clinical diagnosis.

Wig anxiety is a real thing and it can manifest in a couple of different ways.

    1. A very common manifestation of wig anxiety that is particularly common among new wig wearers is the concern that everyone knows you’re wearing a wig. This is not true. This anxiety usually fades over time as you begin to realize that most people have no clue you’re wearing a wig. (And if anyone does notice, they tend to be fellow wig wearers, which is actually kind of a cool way to meet friends and share styling tips.)
    2. A less talked about, but just as common, form of wig anxiety is the concern that there is a “perfect” wig out there somewhere but you just haven’t found it yet and this PERFECT wig is the magical solution to all of your problems. Since this wig most likely doesn’t exist, it can (quite understandably) cause distress to individuals actively in pursuit of it.

I have seen this happen countless times. The women with this type of anxiety always have the same background:

  • medical hair loss and / or chemotherapy-related hair loss
  • a history of buying dozens of wigs from stores all over the web and in person (usually in a relatively short period of time), but ultimately keeping very few – if any – of them
  • there is a frantic, highly anxious, and amped-up pace to their purchases and e-mail correspondence
  • an undertone of sincere dread permeates a lot of the correspondence
    they usually send a wide array of questions about every aspect of dozens of wigs in the store, usually without any purchase resulting from the correspondence
  • this last bit doesn’t offend me at all – but it gives me a lot of insight about the fact that these women spend HOURS researching hair and that they don’t enjoy any of it. So they are obsessively doing something they kind of hate doing! This lack of joy is a big part of the problem!

Here’s what I’m getting at: picking the wrong wig is not an earth-shattering decision and should not be a terrifying thing, especially if you can exchange it!

I want to have a genuine conversation about this with you that may seem counter- intuitive coming from someone who is trying to sell you stuff. However, I do not want to take advantage of people who are in pain. (I like being able to sleep at night.) So, please hear me out on this.

You should not buy ANYTHING until you are at peace with this and the anxiety about this is no longer part of the equation. I say this because as long as you are anxious about it, you will not be happy with anything you buy, even if it looks perfect on you.

Please do yourself a favor and do not invest money in hair until you take a step away from this and investigate why you feel so anxious. (Remember: I’m talking to type #2 anxiety people, which are tougher cookies to crumble; type #1 people are generally anxious for fairly straightforward reasons.)

I would hate for you to continue to spin your wheels – or worse, throw a lot of money at the issue – and come away dissatisfied.

I see women do this all the time and they waste hundreds of dollars on hair when the issue was that their expectations just didn’t match reality. Oftentimes, women don’t even know exactly what it is that they don’t like about a certain wig. They just know it isn’t THE ONE.

I am absolutely of the mind set that to be happy with any emotional purchase (including hair) you have to be calm when you buy it. To reach that state of mind, you should try to think about answering these things (for yourself, not to me):

What are you looking for?

What are you expecting this hair to do for you?

Why are you placing so much importance upon this?

Is there anything that is preventing you from just having fun with this?

What makes the wrong wig “wrong” – specifically and NOT emotionally?

And why would buying the “wrong” wig be such a catastrophic event, especially if all the things you’re looking at are similar in terms of color and cut?

I think it’s cool if collecting wigs is fun for you and a hobby. I collect wigs too and I don’t see anything wrong with that at all! Where things get wonky from my perspective is when it seems to become a chore or something very high stakes. Shopping for hair should be a fun thing, a way to play dress up and enhance your look, even if it IS for medical reasons. (Heck, it’s ESPECIALLY true if you need it for medical reasons! That’s when the mood boost really counts!) This should not be a sudden-death, winner-takes-all wig face-off, like the Highlander for hair where “there can be only one.” Unless you’re extremely poor (which, just keeping it real, most of the clients shopping here are not), then this should be an adventure! Embrace it with open arms!

How to determine if this is you: This should be FUN. If you find yourself OBSESSING over wigs and you are tormented over the decision as if it’s life or death, then you probably have this form of anxiety. Another dead giveaway for most forms of anxiety are physiological symptoms: sweaty palms, tightness in the chest, shallow breathing, frequent urination that is inconsistent with other disorders or conditions, sleeplessness, teeth-grinding and tightness in the jaw, and restlessness are all fairly common.

What to do about it: The moment it ceases to be fun is when you should take a pause and reflect to see what’s up. DO NOT BUY ANYTHING when in this state!

Some suggestions:

Go for a brisk walk! Exercise is fabulous for anxiety.

If you have mobility limitations, then another great idea is to unplug from the internet, TV, and all forms of social media for at least 24 hours to unclutter your mind and collect your thoughts. Social media has been heavily linked to increased depression and stress levels in many different independent studies over the past ten years. UNPLUG if you feel stressed like this. I swear you will feel a difference in 24 hours and it will be amazing. The key is to tune out the media – especially social media and the news – for a full day. It’s really difficult to do, but once you do this, even once, it is a very eye-opening experience!

If these short-term, inexpensive solutions do not work, then you may want to consider consulting with a trained professional or counselor. (Honestly, you may want to do this anyway in combination with the above!) There’s absolutely no shame in this! Sometimes it’s nice to talk to an impartial person about the things that worry you so they can help put things into perspective for you.

The benefit: You will be much more clear-headed when you go into making this purchase, you will spend less money over time, and you’ll end up feeling much better, ultimately, about yourself and what you buy. 🙂

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