Heather in the upcoming Bay style by Estetica, color: R30/28/26

In case you missed it or are not the social media type, here is Estetica Design’s interview with our very own Heather and the new Estetica Summer 2018 Collection! Jett – an open-capped adorable pixie, Wren – a curlier version of Violet, Blaze – a gorgeous long curly style (the longest shown), and finally Finn – a mid-length, layered, curly style that is right on trend!


Today I received this excellent question from Jennifer who wanted to know how to bring some body back to her Heat-Friendly topper:


Can someone advise me? I have used heat on my Easipart HD and it has removed the body from the hair. How can I add the body back (not curl)? I want it to have the same body it’s always had. Thanks.

Items you will need for this solution:

Table Clamp

Canvas Blockhead

Jon Renau Synthetic-Safe Holding Spray


Beautimark Shaping Cream

A good blow dryer with a concentrator attachment (Heather uses this one)

A good wig comb (we recommend this one)



Step 1: Secure topper to the blockhead with T-pins, being careful not to damage any lace features. If you have no choice other than to attach the topper to lace, be sure you avoid pulling on the unit as you style it. (This will help you avoid tears.)

Step 2: Gently comb the topper into the general part and position you want it.

Step 3: Apply a nickel-sized amount of shaping cream to the hair near the base at the front, but avoiding the knots. Manipulate with hands to get it into your preferred position.

Step 4: Working in small, 1” – 1.5” sections, spray with a small amount of synthetic safe hair spray at the base of the hair and “zap” it with small, short, concentrated blasts of high heat from the blow dryer. Use the comb to hold the hair in place as you zap it. The heat + the holding spray will work together to give you the lift you crave. Do this all over the topper or until you have the look you are going for.

Step 5: Spray lightly with the synthetic safe hairspray all over and allow to dry as a finishing touch.

PRO TIP: Hang your monofilament toppers upside down at night to store them. This will help preserve the body and bounce so you don’t have to style it as frequently!


About the “Help Me, Heather” series: Heather is the owner, founder, and web designer for CysterWigs.com. Periodically, Heather will select tickets submitted to our CysterWigs Client Care Help Desk for this column. Email us if you have a question for the team at CysterWigs. Who knows – maybe your question will be selected for the next edition!

Still searching for last minute holiday hair? Here are some tips to help you out!

  1. Buy from our clearance site, www.wigcloseouts.com. These can often ship next-day and typically arrive about 5 days (or less) after you place an order, provided you live in the continental USA.
  2. Stick to smaller brands with tight distribution networks. The fastest tend to be (in no particular order): Tony of Beverly, Jon Renau, Henry Margu, TressAllure, and Envy.
  3. Likewise, avoid larger brands with wider distribution, such as Aderans Hair Goods (Amore, ROP, Noriko, Revlon) and HairUWear (Gabor, Raquel Welch, HairDo). Like any large organization, there are more people involved with every step of the fulfillment process and this greatly slows them down this time of year.
  4. Specialty products – such as Clary’s, Ellen Wille, or imported wigs – will typically experience shipping delays even in slow times of year. This should definitely be expected during the end of year holidays!
  5. Shop from stores that keep current inventory listings on their site to help avoid backorders. CysterWigs.com is a site that does this! Plus, you are always welcome to contact us if you need precise inventory numbers for a particular style or color. Our email is: support@cysterwigs.zendesk.com.
  6. Consider giving the gift of good hair! CysterWigs.com sells gift certificates that make it easy as pie to help a friend in need of a good hair assist! This is an easy way to earn yourself some loyalty points and spread some holiday cheer. Best of all: They are instantly deliverable, so no worries about shipping delays! Your friend will receive their gift card via email, thus eliminating any worries about it arriving in time for Christmas!

Hi there! Heather here. I found myself typing a quasi-inspirational speech to some of my associates today via email and I wanted to share it with you in case you also found it helpful. 

“Do or not do, there is no try.” 

This isn’t just linguistics. This is a mental and emotional hurdle. Just think of Yoda. He was onto something!

When you say you’ll do something, either out loud or in your head, you’ve just committed yourself to seeing that task through to completion. (Yes is a powerful word.)

When you say you won’t do something, the commitment is terminated right then and there and you can move onto the next thing. (No is perhaps an even more powerful word!)

You can also say not at this time (which is also quite potent) with the understanding that you’ll research the matter and make this assessment once you have more information.

The least powerful and least assertive thing you could ever say is: “I’ll try.”

TRY removes your agency as an active player in the situation.

TRY gives a potent and concise voice to your self-doubts. Everyone has self-doubts, but assertive people see them as a challenge. Scared people use these doubts as a shield to deflect anything that might rile their insecurities.

TRY is weakness thriving behind a cozy and compact three-letter lie.

TRY is for people who need excuses, can’t make decisions, or doubt their abilities. Think about it; it has an excuse built into it already! People who find themselves routinely saying, “I’ll try,” are too afraid to say they can’t (or won’t) do something and too insecure in their own abilities to commit to getting it done.

Just think of how annoying it is when friends say they’ll “try” to hang out with you and then never show up or call. You probably already knew they were going to flake out on you. We’ve all known at least one person in our lives like this. If you’ve lived through this, then you know all too well how some people can hide behind that maybe to avoid saying yes or no.

That’s why we should avoid doing this crap to ourselves. Don’t be a flakey friend to yourself!

Either you will or you won’t do something, or, you’ll wait until you have more info before you make that call. All of these options display more integrity than saying, “I’ll try,” or, “maybe.”

Highly skilled people don’t need to resort to excuses because they know that this is just a seductive hinderance to their productivity. They’re too busy trying to get stuff done. There is no room for TRY.

I want to drill into this a little further to show you how this little mental shift can help you in big ways.

“Do or not do, there is no try.” 

When you change your mentality to this binary, the way you approach obstacles, knowledge deficiencies, and new challenges also changes.

It forces you to make instantaneous assessments of the extent of that which you do not know.

You must stop yourself, focus inwardly, and do an internal integrity check about your short comings without self-directed malice. This is a skill. You need to practice it to do it well.

This is especially true if you are predisposed to depression or anxiety. It won’t be impossible for you if that is you situation. You just have to try harder and longer to make it work, just like how some people maintain a healthy weight more easily than others. Every BODY (which your brain is only one part of) is differently abled. Everyone’s path is different and that’s ok! 

Anyhow, you need to assess whether you can do something before committing to it one way or the other. If you’re wrong and you assume you’re good at something only to fail, it shows you a weakness. You can then focus on that weakness to make it a new skill and a new source of strength.

This is the way we learn. This is how people overcome obstacles. This is how we GROW.

It’s a painful process, which is why so many people work so hard to avoid it. After all, it’s always easier to be upset about something — or feel guilty about it — than to go that additional step to try to fix it.

No one gets everything right the first time around. However, you can’t learn from your mistakes properly if you side step this process. By always choosing TRY or MAYBE as your path, you are actively avoiding this important growth opportunity because your ego, guilt, or fear is getting in the way.

The thing is, though, you need to know your short comings in order to overcome them, and beating yourself up over them is counter productive. It can seem like a horrendous Catch 22. You can easily get caught in a cycle that seems compelling: one of judgement, self-directed malice, and ultimately, guilt or shame. But once you arrive at this negativity and internalize it, you get stuck there until you can recognize that it’s pointless. You have to remind yourself from time to time that this mindset is just self-centered sabotage.

If this is the first weakness you encounter, then it is also the first one you’ll have to address on your path to success. 

And on that note, just because something is easier said than done, doesn’t mean it’s not worth doing. Heck, some of the most important things in life — finishing college, having and raising children, getting married — are textbook examples of how some things are easier said than done, but somehow still worth the pain of the path to that experience.

Knowing your weaknesses is the first step in life towards truly realizing your strengths instead of just assuming what they are or letting others define them for you.

It’s scary. It’s painful.

It’s the most important thing you could ever learn. Even more so than computer stuff.


I never, ever, EVER call human hair “real hair.”

To me, my synthetic toppers and wigs are just as “real” as my human hair ones.

This whole linguistic issue is more loaded than meets the eye.

By calling human hair “real” and synthetic hair “fake”, we perpetuate a deeply rooted marketing gimmick centered on human hair. Namely, that your hair won’t look or feel “real” unless you spend as much as a used car on it. This just isn’t true. (At least, it’s not true as far as I am concerned.)

What is true is that some women just don’t like synthetic hair. It feels different to them than human hair. That is a completely valid and justified critique. It DOES feel different! 

Different doesn’t mean it’s philosophically or physically changing properties!  Different just means different. 

For me, you’re either 100% with alternative hair or you’re not. That means that (to me) it’s either all “fake” or it’s all “real.”

I choose to believe in the fantasy of great hair every day.

I choose to consider all of it “real”.

Here are my reasons for this:

  1. All wigs and toppers cost real money, don’t they? 😉
  2. Look at the picture in this post. That is a Top Wave 12″ by Jon Renau. This is a synthetic topper. It looks pretty real to me, how about you?

I imagine that some of you may disagree and that is totally cool. I am not trying to cram my opinion down your throat. Instead, I just wanted to offer this to you as an alternative to a rather loud and prevalent theme you’ll see within the online wig community. My hope is that it will provide you with something different to ponder about this subject.