This article is going to concentrate mostly on the second form of wig anxiety, since the first form is the one most familiar to everyone and the one most likely to fix itself with time and patience. This is not a real clinical diagnosis.

Wig anxiety is a real thing and it can manifest in a couple of different ways.

    1. A very common manifestation of wig anxiety that is particularly common among new wig wearers is the concern that everyone knows you’re wearing a wig. This is not true. This anxiety usually fades over time as you begin to realize that most people have no clue you’re wearing a wig. (And if anyone does notice, they tend to be fellow wig wearers, which is actually kind of a cool way to meet friends and share styling tips.)
    2. A less talked about, but just as common, form of wig anxiety is the concern that there is a “perfect” wig out there somewhere but you just haven’t found it yet and this PERFECT wig is the magical solution to all of your problems. Since this wig most likely doesn’t exist, it can (quite understandably) cause distress to individuals actively in pursuit of it.

I have seen this happen countless times. The women with this type of anxiety always have the same background:

  • medical hair loss and / or chemotherapy-related hair loss
  • a history of buying dozens of wigs from stores all over the web and in person (usually in a relatively short period of time), but ultimately keeping very few – if any – of them
  • there is a frantic, highly anxious, and amped-up pace to their purchases and e-mail correspondence
  • an undertone of sincere dread permeates a lot of the correspondence
    they usually send a wide array of questions about every aspect of dozens of wigs in the store, usually without any purchase resulting from the correspondence
  • this last bit doesn’t offend me at all – but it gives me a lot of insight about the fact that these women spend HOURS researching hair and that they don’t enjoy any of it. So they are obsessively doing something they kind of hate doing! This lack of joy is a big part of the problem!

Here’s what I’m getting at: picking the wrong wig is not an earth-shattering decision and should not be a terrifying thing, especially if you can exchange it!

I want to have a genuine conversation about this with you that may seem counter- intuitive coming from someone who is trying to sell you stuff. However, I do not want to take advantage of people who are in pain. (I like being able to sleep at night.) So, please hear me out on this.

You should not buy ANYTHING until you are at peace with this and the anxiety about this is no longer part of the equation. I say this because as long as you are anxious about it, you will not be happy with anything you buy, even if it looks perfect on you.

Please do yourself a favor and do not invest money in hair until you take a step away from this and investigate why you feel so anxious. (Remember: I’m talking to type #2 anxiety people, which are tougher cookies to crumble; type #1 people are generally anxious for fairly straightforward reasons.)

I would hate for you to continue to spin your wheels – or worse, throw a lot of money at the issue – and come away dissatisfied.

I see women do this all the time and they waste hundreds of dollars on hair when the issue was that their expectations just didn’t match reality. Oftentimes, women don’t even know exactly what it is that they don’t like about a certain wig. They just know it isn’t THE ONE.

I am absolutely of the mind set that to be happy with any emotional purchase (including hair) you have to be calm when you buy it. To reach that state of mind, you should try to think about answering these things (for yourself, not to me):

What are you looking for?

What are you expecting this hair to do for you?

Why are you placing so much importance upon this?

Is there anything that is preventing you from just having fun with this?

What makes the wrong wig “wrong” – specifically and NOT emotionally?

And why would buying the “wrong” wig be such a catastrophic event, especially if all the things you’re looking at are similar in terms of color and cut?

I think it’s cool if collecting wigs is fun for you and a hobby. I collect wigs too and I don’t see anything wrong with that at all! Where things get wonky from my perspective is when it seems to become a chore or something very high stakes. Shopping for hair should be a fun thing, a way to play dress up and enhance your look, even if it IS for medical reasons. (Heck, it’s ESPECIALLY true if you need it for medical reasons! That’s when the mood boost really counts!) This should not be a sudden-death, winner-takes-all wig face-off, like the Highlander for hair where “there can be only one.” Unless you’re extremely poor (which, just keeping it real, most of the clients shopping here are not), then this should be an adventure! Embrace it with open arms!

How to determine if this is you: This should be FUN. If you find yourself OBSESSING over wigs and you are tormented over the decision as if it’s life or death, then you probably have this form of anxiety. Another dead giveaway for most forms of anxiety are physiological symptoms: sweaty palms, tightness in the chest, shallow breathing, frequent urination that is inconsistent with other disorders or conditions, sleeplessness, teeth-grinding and tightness in the jaw, and restlessness are all fairly common.

What to do about it: The moment it ceases to be fun is when you should take a pause and reflect to see what’s up. DO NOT BUY ANYTHING when in this state!

Some suggestions:

Go for a brisk walk! Exercise is fabulous for anxiety.

If you have mobility limitations, then another great idea is to unplug from the internet, TV, and all forms of social media for at least 24 hours to unclutter your mind and collect your thoughts. Social media has been heavily linked to increased depression and stress levels in many different independent studies over the past ten years. UNPLUG if you feel stressed like this. I swear you will feel a difference in 24 hours and it will be amazing. The key is to tune out the media – especially social media and the news – for a full day. It’s really difficult to do, but once you do this, even once, it is a very eye-opening experience!

If these short-term, inexpensive solutions do not work, then you may want to consider consulting with a trained professional or counselor. (Honestly, you may want to do this anyway in combination with the above!) There’s absolutely no shame in this! Sometimes it’s nice to talk to an impartial person about the things that worry you so they can help put things into perspective for you.

The benefit: You will be much more clear-headed when you go into making this purchase, you will spend less money over time, and you’ll end up feeling much better, ultimately, about yourself and what you buy. 🙂

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Wig anxiety is a real thing and it can manifest in a couple of different ways.

A very common manifestation of wig anxiety that is particularly common among new wig wearers is the concern that everyone knows you’re wearing a wig. This is not true. This anxiety usually fades over time as you begin to realize that most people have no clue you’re wearing a wig. (And if anyone does notice, they tend to be fellow wig wearers, which is actually kind of a cool way to meet friends and share styling tips.)

A less talked about, but just as common, form of wig anxiety is the concern that there is A PERFECT wig out there somewhere but you just haven’t found it yet and this PERFECT wig is the magical solution to all of your problems. Since this wig most likely doesn’t exist, it can (quite understandably) cause distress to individuals actively in pursuit of it.

 

Let’s discuss Type 1

From a customer e-mail:

If I could trouble you for your professional opinion…..I saw a Heidi JR in shaded peach locally and fell in love. My ideal situation would be to have this wig trimmed down into a half wig or large topper and have my bio hair free underneath. My bio hair is a level 4-6 brunette like the rooted shade of Heidi.

Would this look completely bizarre?? I see women all the time that have heavily highlighted top layers with undyed natural colour underneath….but Heidi doesn’t have any low lights so that makes me hesitate.

This question is a two-parter.

For the first question:

I actually think Heidi would be a great wig to turn into a topper – and it’s a very easy thing to do, too! 🙂

Before I tell you how, I have one question: does your biohair have a similar texture? That is my only reservation here. You will want it to blend in . . . though it may look kind of cool if you got the back of your hair cut really short and tapered like an angled bob, thus negating the need for the textures to match. The integration is the tricky part with toppers. The texture is more of a dead giveaway than a color match because if your hair is slightly darker, like you mentioned in your example, then the topper could just look like it’s adding highlights / lowlights. Texture is much harder to pass off like that.

If your texture matches, then the rest is easy-peasy! All you would have to do is cut the monofilament top free from the rest of the wig – which should be easy to accomplish due the obvious seams – and then sew in some Jon Renau pressure-sensitive clips into the back and sides of the mono parts.

You may also want some lace tape for the lace front, and Lace Let Go to protect these delicate features (and your skin!) while removing the topper at night.

For the second question:

It will NOT look bizarre at all, provided the textures match or you have another strategy like the stacked-bob solution I mentioned above. Your dark hair color will look very pretty with this kind of highlight added to it, and will look like a traditional “stacked” color, which is typically darker at the nape, anyway.

Here’s a video tutorial on this:

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Most people will experience some type of hair thinning over the course of their lives. We’ve compiled a list of some of the most interesting hair loss statistics to help shed some light on hair shedding. (Sources are included via hyperlinks.)

1. Not all men experience hair loss, but most do.
Up to 85% of men in the USA will experience some type of hair loss by their 50th birthday, according to the American Hair Loss Association.

2. Men and Women experience hair loss in similar numbers.
Women actually make up more than 40% of all Americans experiencing hair loss.

3. Men get hit hard with hair loss earlier in life.
DHT – a kind of testosterone – is the key player in most forms of hormonal hair loss. Men have more of it earlier in life and less estrogen to protect against it. Because of these two factors combined, about 25% of men experience some degree of hair loss before age 21.

4. Age plays a big role in female hair loss too.
Estrogen and lower testosterone levels protect most women from substantial hair loss during their reproductive years. This is why men appear to lose their hair earlier in life than women. Women catch up to men once they reach the years of perimenopause and beyond.

5. Children can experience hair loss.
Hair loss accounts for roughly 3% of pediatric doctor’s office visits in the US every year.

6. Your hair is constantly falling out and regrowing.
Most people lose an average of 50 – 100 strands of hair a day! The crucial part is the regrowth. If the hair falls out and is meant to regrow, it will regrow. Simple as that!

The hair cycle – your hair is constantly falling out and renewing itself!

7. Stress and trauma can make your hair fall out – but it will most likely grow back.
Stress interrupts the normal hair cycle. This can be emotional or physical stress – because remember that your brain is part of your body too! If you’re stressed to the max, this is just as hard on you physically as physical trauma. Try your best not to get too stressed about the shedding (easier said than done, for sure) because this can worsen or prolong the problem.

8. Radical changes to your physical condition can also encourage shedding.
A super high fever, child birth, or rapid weight loss are very good examples of physical changes or conditions that can cause you to lose a lot of hair quickly. Again, shedding is normal. It’s whether or not it grows back that you should focus on – and that can often take several months before you notice improvements post-shed.

9. Normal shedding and hair loss are technically different.
Shedding is normal and something that happens every day of your life. We’re mammals, after all, and hair serves many purposes. It needs to reboot and regenerate to be in tip-top shape. Hair loss, on the other hand, is when the hair doesn’t grow back after it’s been shed. This is called anagen effluvium.

10. LOTS of medications can cause hair shed as a side effect.
Get ready for a very long “short list” of some of the most common culprits. Bear in mind that this is not a comprehensive list. You will want to read the information pamphlet provided by you pharmacist – or call your doctor – for more details.

Anticoagulant medications (Panwarfarin, Sofarin, Coumadin and heparin injections);
Gout medications (Allopurinol, Lopurin and Zyloprim); Beta blockers (Atenolol, Tenormin, Metoprolol, Lopressor, Nadolol, Corgord, Propranolol, Inderal, Inderal LA, Timolol, Blocadren); Angiotensin-converting enzyme inhibitors, or ACE inhibitors (Captopril, Capoten, Lisinopril, Zestril, Prinivil, Enalapril, Vasotec); Vitamin A; Acne medication (Isotretinoin, Accutane); Female hormone therapy and oral contraceptives (birth control pills, estrogen, progesterone);
Men who take testosterone or anabolic steroids may experience male pattern balding;
Antidepressants, mood stabilizers and anti-anxiety medications (Amitriptyline, Elavil, Endep, Amoxapine, Asendin, Clomipramine, Anafranil, Desipramine, Norpramin, Pertofrane, Doxepin, Adapin, Sinequan, Fluoxetine hydrochloride, Prozac, Haloperidol, Haldol, Imipramine, Janimine, Tofranil, Tofranil PM, Nortriptyline, Pamelor, Aventyl, Paroxetine, Paxil, Protriptyline hydrochloride, Vivactil, Sertraline hydrochloride, Zoloft, Trimipramine, Surmontil); Anticonvulsants or anti-seizure medications (Trimethadione, Tridione, Valproic Acid, Depakote); and, of course, a whole buffet of chemotherapy medications have been known to cause hair shedding.

11. Rogaine isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.
Rogaine is a vasodilator that can help prevent hair shed but does not normally cause lost hair to regrow. Plus, you have to apply the stuff every day of your life or the shedding will resume.

12. You probably have more hair follicles than you realize.
The average human scalp has about 100,000 to 150,000 hairs on it. The thickness and distribution of those individual strands of hair account for a lot of the appearance of thick, full hair.

13. Ethnicity – and its impact on your hair texture – influences your rate of hair growth.
For example, Asian women – who typically have silky, straight, durable hair – often see faster hair growth than women of African heritage – who often have very curly, easily broken hair.

14. Men in Asia seek surgical options for their hair loss more than any other demographic in the world.
The ISHRS puts the number of surgical and nonsurgical patients seeking help for hair loss issues at more than 971,000 as of 2012. Just over 86 percent of patients were male, although the number of women seeking surgical remedies jumped by 20 percent between 2004 and 2012.

While over 250,000 of them live in the U.S., Asia takes the largest share of the market with close to 400,000 people going through the hair restoration treatment process every year.

15. Not everyone is a good candidate for hair restoration surgery.
Many factors are generally taken into consideration including: gender, number of grafts required to meet expectations, density and health of hair in donor areas, blood supply to the scalp, color of hair and skin, the texture of your hair compared to the donor hair, and your future hair loss based on the doctor’s projections.

16. Women are generally poor candidates for hair restoration surgery.
Most women have diffuse hair loss as opposed to the classic male presentation of Androgenic Alopecia. Men have better results with this surgery because they usually have very thick, healthy hair in the back of their scalps. Women typically lose from all over the scalp but with a higher concentration on the top, making it nearly impossible to take healthy grafts from existing hair. The chances of the grafted hair falling out are also higher for women due to this fact.

17. Even if the surgery works for a woman, it may not give her the results she’s looking for.
According to the International Society of Hair Restoration Surgery, the most common complaints after surgery in 2016 were: less density than expected (54%), post-operative shock loss (36.9%), pain after procedure (24.5%), and post-operative graft shedding (18.4%).

18. This is probably why the largest supplier of hair restoration surgeries in the world also owns the world’s largest wig company!
Aderans Hair Goods – parent company of Rene of Paris, Revlon, Amore, and Noriko wigs, among others – also owns Bosley Hair Centers and The Hair Club (formerly The Hair Club for Men).

19. Reasons for hair loss differ greatly from person to person.
LOTS of things can cause or contribute to stopping the natural regrowth that occurs at the end of the hair cycle, resulting in permanent hair loss for men and women. These include: medications, genetic predisposition, hormonal factors, prolonged stress or trauma, autoimmune disorders, dermatological disorders, PCOS and a wide variety of other health conditions, child birth, trichotillomania, extreme weight loss, hair styles that pull the hair (such as braiding under weave extensions or really tight pony tails), and menopause.

20. August is Hair Loss Awareness Month.
The American Academy of Dermatology has designated August as National Hair Loss Awareness Month. (It is also Psoriasis Awareness Month. There just aren’t enough months in a year!)

From a customer email:

Hey Heather, I started wearing a wig because I have limited range of motion in my shoulders. The only wig I have been wearing is a Raquel Welch Winner Large in R28S+. I was not sure how it SHOULD fit. It had what seemed like extra material at the top that wouldn’t seat so I had it altered. I have used prosthetic glue, bands, tapes and caps in an effort to keep it on. For example, like you do in videos, if I would attempt to “mess” it up on my head, it would pop off. I feel uncomfortable in windy conditions. I go to the gym and would like for the wig to stay seated as I go through my workout and not migrate up until everyone and their brother knows it’s a wig. HELP!

This has probably way more to do with the hair under your wig than the wigs you’re buying.

As you’ve learned, just buying a large cap wig is not enough to get around this…and you are probably an average cap size anyhow, given the information you’ve provided.

Here’s the dealio: Most of these wigs are specifically designed for folks who don’t have much hair on their heads. They are made to fit right up against the scalp with very little wiggle room for extra biohair to fit underneath. (FYI: This is also why so many hand-tied wigs are sized “petite-average” — they are meant to fit like a second skin, right up against the scalp, because a close fit reduces the risk of abrasion due to friction.)

The #1 thing you can do to save yourself from the “will-this-pop-off” anxiety is to make sure that your biohair is as absolutely flat against your head as you can possibly make it before putting the wig on.

If this is difficult to do on a daily basis due to your limited range of motion, you have some other options:
1. Cut your biohair and keep it short. My hair is in a pixie cut 24/7/365 under my wigs. This makes almost all of these fit problems disappear immediately.

2. Stop buying these medical wigs and give hi fashion wigs a try. By hi fashion, I mean specifically, the kind that African American ladies wear and not the kind I sell in my store. These wigs are designed for folks with a full head of hair to conceal under their caps and are much more accommodating than these close-fitting medical wigs. The other big benefit is that these tend to be WAY less expensive because they don’t have the fancier cap features that, frankly, would be of limited utility to you with a full head of hair…unless you have your eyes on fancy monofilament wigs, but that doesn’t seem to be the case here.

3. Experiment with different kind of wig caps to see which will give you the best biohair compression.

4. Try securing your wig with pressure-sensitive clips, which can be sewn directly into the cap. (FTR: Most African American wigs come with clips or combs already sewn in!)

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