By CysterWigs Contributor
Agreeing to take on extra projects at work, helping someone move on your day off, or even reluctantly accepting an invitation to go out with friends – you agree to it when you really don’t want to. We’ve all been there, right? Even though saying yes can make us feel useful and important, it can lead to stress, anxiety, and resentment. But, most of the time, we only have ourselves to blame.
It’s understandable – saying no may feel aggressive or rude, like you’re rejecting the person who’s making the request. But in reality, you saying no doesn’t make you the “bad guy.” In fact, learning how to say no is an effective skill that will help you benefit in your career, personal life, and even when it comes to your own well-being in the long run. Saying no is an essential element to building a more fulfilling, authentic life.
Here are 5 things to keep in mind when saying no:
You are not an unlimited resource – set boundaries with your time and resources because you only have a limited supply to go around. If you give it all away, you’ll have nothing left for yourself.
Be selfish – put your own needs first, not those of the people asking something of you. Your goals matter the most. So, if the asks are not conducive to your needs or goals, you don’t have to entertain them.
Be firm – you don’t need to explain every time you say no. You have every right to make the decision that’s best for you. If someone can’t respect your answer, they definitely don’t deserve an explanation. You also don’t need to apologize. Give a firm no and don’t waver.
Just say it – don’t be afraid to be direct. Beating around the bush only makes things more awkward. If you don’t want to attend a party, just say so. That’s way better than lying. You don’t have to rage out with your answer. You can just say that you appreciate the invite, but partying is not your jam.
When you say no, you’re making room for a bigger yes – make intentional choices with your time. The biggest advantage of saying no: it frees you to say yes to people and opportunities that truly matter to you. Don’t feel bad about passing on an event or turning someone down. There will be other events and please know that your rejection is not the first time that anyone has been told no.
Trust us. If you start saying no more, you’ll feel less stressed and more like yourself.