Hi folks Kathleen here with my hair journey..my story…how Heather and CysterWigs changed my life. Sounds a little dramatic but its true. Below is me nine years old and in fourth grade. So proud of the hair thingy I made on a loom. Feeling like a princess because my mom made me a princess dress. I am not yet aware that my hair isn’t the prettiest. My mom as she did on special occasions put my hair in pin curls the night before. The curl was pretty in the morning but by the time my photo was taken it had flopped. The awareness that my hair wasn’t like everyone else’s didn’t start creeping into my head for a couple of more years.
By the time I was eleven I knew my hair was thin. Pressure clips were the only thing that stayed in my hair. I had a pixie for years but begged my mom to let me grow my hair long like everyone else. (She was sweet and didn’t want me to be disappointed ) From fourth grade to eighth grade I let my hair grow. This was as long as it got and stopped. The years of being self conscience about my hair had already begun. I wasn’t pretty because my hair wasn’t pretty. At least that’s how I felt. My hair was so thin you could see the shape of my ears..it barely covered them. I never had braids or pony tails or updos. My hair wasn’t part of my persona or identity. I became the comic of the group and became known as the artist. That’s how I coped. In ninth grade I cut my hair into a pixie and wore short hair until I started wearing wigs.
I have very few photos of myself before I started wearing wigs. I hated getting my photo taken. I would panic when it rained or was humid or windy..I knew all the work I put into my hair..the products the blowdrying the hairspray wouldn’t matter and my hair would flop five minutes after going outside. Little by little my self esteem was taking a hit. It was very insidious. I didn’t notice…it just happened over time. I made jokes to cover my embarrassment. Fast forward I met my husband at eighteen we married after college and two years later I had my first baby Bridget. I was born maternal and was in seventh Heaven…my hair not so much. Remember those perms? The curl (if you could call it that 😉) would last a few days to two weeks..why do it at all then? It made me feel like my hair was thicker.
Below in image 4 is me several years ago holding my grand puppy Cody. I told you I was maternal…😂 This is my hair clean and in it’s natural state. I remember that day I didn’t blow dry it because it was so hot and humid (I live in Georgia) and there was no point in it.
Above in image 5 is one of the last photos I could find before my wig adventure began. Its dyed which damaged my hair but also gave it some body. I was at a Polo game and photo shoot and it was hot. This was a good hair day for me.
Almost two years ago on a whim I decided to wear a wig because I wanted to grown out my hair to see its real color. I was 57 and in my family we don’t really get gray. I remember people always thought my mom and dad dyed their hair..lol not hardly. My dad? Too funny..and the only thing my mom would do on special occasions is wear lipstick and maybe some blush. Now I also knew my hair grew really slowing and would take over a year to grow out. I wasn’t thinking any further into the future than that.
I started looking for wigs online and on youtube and came across Heather and CysterWigs. She was funny sweet open and so informative. Now the back story is about twenty years earlier I did get a wig so I could look good if I had to drop the kids off at school in the morning before I did my hair. It was bought at a wig-shop..it was awful..too big too full and looked like a helmet but it was the shortest one I could find. I wore it once and gave it away. I found CysterWigs on Facebook and sent a message. I was looking for a blonde but nothing brassy. Heather responded and was so helpful we went back and forth a few times and she made some suggestions. She wasn’t a sales person..wasn’t pushy at all. I was so impressed. She innately realized this is a process and everyone goes at their own pace. The most important thing I came away with from our conversation was I wasn’t alone and there’s nothing wrong with me. Such a weight was lifted. I felt there was hope. Hope that I might finally get some “hair” that looked pretty on me.
I decided to get a pixie. A style I would have worn in real life in a color I could never achieve because my own hair always became brassy after I dyed her. I got Evan by Jon Renau in Blonde Brownie 22F16. One mistake I made. (I didn’t listen to Heathers suggestion that I get a wig with no monofilament features) I am a Taurus (stubborn) So Evan has a lace front. 😜 My first impression was wow thats a lot of thick hair. No one will believe its my own hair. I put it on..this is common I’m sure but I thought it looked sooooo wiggy too thick. I did like the color though. Remember I’m stubborn..this helps me out tremendously at this point. I thin/cut the bang area until I felt it looked more natural on me. The first time I wore it the itching from the lace front was unbearable. I thought I would scratch the skin clear off my forehead. I wore it maybe two hours. I thought there as something wrong with me. I figured I was the only one this ever happened too. Silly me…I signed up for CysterWigs newsletter and looked into their online community and started reading..I wasn’t alone..Heather explained that it takes awhile for your brain to get “used”to the feel of your wig and the lace front etc. She was right! Within a few days(of wearing Evan around the house) she didn’t itch anymore..yippee! 💃🏼This also gave my family time to get used to seeing me in normal thickness hair.
Below in image 7 is the way I introduced my wig to my friends and family. A soft announcement. Almost two years ago. That’s all I wrote..New do… I expected a few people to say it looks nice for a wig. I was blown away by the response..everyone even folks who never commented on my posts said they loved it. No one thought it was a wig..no one.😊
So basically that response changed everything..I went to my dogs veterinarian for my first outing got complimented on my hair and proudly and without any self consciousness announced its a wig! In that moment I felt it was my mission to help others. Have fun! Life is too short! To be fair I’m old..lol and never much cared what others thought of me…I didn’t have a full head of gorgeous hair that I lost as a young woman…I’m not sick …I just have naturally ultra fine thin hair. I am very fortunate and I know it. I want wigs to be as commonplace and accepted as coloring your hair.
As time goes by I buy more wigs..am get very involved with CysterWigs online community and feel very connected to my wig sisters. I post continuously on Facebook. So as not to bore my friends and family I start posting on my instagram account. Turning it from my art to my wigs. I become friends with Heather, Kelly, Jo, Lori, Taz…so many wig sisters. My self esteem sky rockets…😉
Below in image 8 is my first before and after. I am starting to wear makeup. Something I hadn’t done in years. Push up by Ellen Wille was the first wig I felt I looked good in…really good. It was more me..the color was warm and pretty. I could go out in the rain and it was still pretty. 👍🏻
I love Heather she is an amazingly intelligent loving caring young woman. I haven’t purchased from any other store since starting this journey. Why you ask? Because for me its more than hunting down a deal.(though bewtween signing up for CysterWigs Newsletter and being a VIP member I do get great deals 😏👍🏻) Heather has integrity and I live for integrity and believe me its rare now a days. Loyalty….rare rare rare. I love that she not only is in business because she herself wasn’t happy with her helper hair experiences she educates the public..wayyyyy before anyone was doing youtube videos. She is passionate about helping I admire that..it’s refreshing. Everyone I have come in contact with from CysterWigs has been professional and helpful and I never feel rushed.
Image 10 above is my post that Heather saw and wanted to use as my first photo tutorial for CysterWigs blog. I was so honored. I didn’t think anything of my posts. I just thought if I could help or answer one persons question I’d be happy. Well one thing leads to another..from occasional guest blogger to freelance graphic artist to now an employee and their Instagram Extraordinaire (yeah I added the extraordinaire part 😉) and blogger for CysterWigs. What’s funny is when Heather asked me if I would be interested in becoming part of the CysterWigs team I told her..well everyone thinks I work for you already. Lol 😜 I love what I do..I feel passionate about the subject of wigs and how it can totally transform someones life. I know I’m not alone in that feeling.
So the take away here is wigs can change your life. CysterWigs is the best company out there in my book and I love and admire everyone on the CysterWigs team. Heather, Kerry, Taz, Gina, Lucas, John and so so many more. From thinking I’ll wear “one” wig for a year to having a “few” more 😉 to working for the company that has change my life for the better. Life couldn’t be any sweeter.
Below are several photos of me in various styles for your viewing pleasure as they say…Be bold experiment and by all means have FUN & ENJOY!
Bryn by Envy in Lighter Red
Madison by Estetica in R30/28/26
Voltage Elite by Raquel Welch in Glazed Vanilla
Kenzie by Tony of Beverly in Cherry Punch
Mimosa by Belle Tress in Champagne with Apple Pie
Play by Ellen Wille in Mango Rooted
Isla by Tony of Beverly in Minx
Isla by Tony of Beverly in Sunset Red