Just Say No…And Mean It.

 
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By CysterWigs Contributor

Agreeing to take on extra projects at work, helping someone move on your day off, or even reluctantly accepting an invitation to go out with friends – you agree to it when you really don’t want to. We’ve all been there, right? Even though saying yes can make us feel useful and important, it can lead to stress, anxiety, and resentment. But, most of the time, we only have ourselves to blame.

It’s understandable – saying no may feel aggressive or rude, like you’re rejecting the person who’s making the request. But in reality, you saying no doesn’t make you the “bad guy.” In fact, learning how to say no is an effective skill that will help you benefit in your career, personal life, and even when it comes to your own well-being in the long run. Saying no is an essential element to building a more fulfilling, authentic life.

Here are 5 things to keep in mind when saying no:

You are not an unlimited resource – set boundaries with your time and resources because you only have a limited supply to go around. If you give it all away, you’ll have nothing left for yourself.

Be selfish – put your own needs first, not those of the people asking something of you. Your goals matter the most. So, if the asks are not conducive to your needs or goals, you don’t have to entertain them.

Be firm – you don’t need to explain every time you say no. You have every right to make the decision that’s best for you. If someone can’t respect your answer, they definitely don’t deserve an explanation. You also don’t need to apologize. Give a firm no and don’t waver.

Just say it – don’t be afraid to be direct. Beating around the bush only makes things more awkward. If you don’t want to attend a party, just say so. That’s way better than lying. You don’t have to rage out with your answer. You can just say that you appreciate the invite, but partying is not your jam.

When you say no, you’re making room for a bigger yes – make intentional choices with your time. The biggest advantage of saying no: it frees you to say yes to people and opportunities that truly matter to you. Don’t feel bad about passing on an event or turning someone down. There will be other events and please know that your rejection is not the first time that anyone has been told no.

Trust us. If you start saying no more, you’ll feel less stressed and more like yourself.

10 Benefits of Drinking Tea

 
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For centuries, tea has been a refreshing or comforting go-to no matter what season it is. Studies have shown that natural teas come with quite a few benefits. They are packed with flavonoids and antioxidants that can help prevent ailments in a natural and effective way. The effect of teas may depend on the variety you choose to consume. From green, black, oolong, white or pu-erh teas, each one offers its own set of perks. Here are just 10 ways that tea consumption could possibly boost your overall health.

Health Benefits of drinking teas

True tea is usually obtained from the plant Camellia sinensis. The health boosting content comes from the high amount of antioxidants present in it. These teas also contain polyphenols as well as catechins that are known to be beneficial for our body.

1. Lowers stress levels
Tea is known to relieve stress and promote relaxation. It reduces the release of the hormone cortisol (which is known to increase stress). According to one study, after drinking black tea for six weeks, the test subject showed a significant decrease in stress. It was also found that tea could be helpful in stress recovery. Green tea contains high amounts of polyphenols that fight stress and anxiety, however, green tea is known to contain a higher caffeine content than white tea. If you’re trying to avoid caffeine, always check the label before you buy.

2. Reduces cholesterol
Another great benefit obtained from teas is reduced cholesterol. Tea can help inhibiting cholesterol absorption from the large intestine. Chinese tea or pu-erh tea has been reported to have a better ability to reduce high cholesterol. Besides, green tea is also effective in lowering both LDL and triglycerides in an incredible way.

3. Improves focus
The catechins present in tea has been known to prevent brain aging that’s incurred due to stress. The combination of L-theanine and caffeine present in teas is also found to be helpful in improving the memory and reaction time, thereby making you feel more alert and focused.

4. Improves heart health
Consumption of green tea may help in reducing heart diseases in a natural way. It aids in lowering the levels of fibrinogen. Fibrinogen is a substance present in the body that promotes the formation of clots, thereby leading to strokes. In a study on the effect of green tea on coronary artery diseases, it was found that the consumption of tea was associated with a lower risk of the condition. The study also revealed that the presence of polyphenolic antioxidants was helpful in preventing atherosclerosis.

5. Helps with weight loss
Some teas such as Pu-erh tea, green tea and black tea are highly effective in reducing belly fat. Pu-erh tea helps in lowering the blood triglycerides as well as blood sugar levels. This can promote weight loss in a natural way. It suppresses weight gain due to its anti-obesity effect on the body. On the other hand, black tea, being high in flavonoids, has been shown to induce weight loss in an effective way.

6. Lowers the risk of Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s
Aging can significantly alter your brain function. Drinking tea can keep your brain functioning in a better way. Multiple studies have shown that the catechin compounds in green tea can have various protective effects on neurons in test tubes and animal models, and potentially lower the risks of Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s. Besides, tea is also known to improve overall brain functioning by increasing attention and enhancing memory.

7. Fights allergies
Tea has been used in many parts of the world for many years to combat allergies. During the springtime when allergies are caused more easily, tea may help you prevent them naturally. Black tea contains theaflavins, which are found to lower the chances of allergic reactions in individuals consuming it. Another tea that may help reduce allergies is green as it is high in quercetin. This compound not only provides a distinct color to the tea but also inhibits the immune reaction that leads to allergies.

8. Reduces inflammation
Whether it is black tea, oolong tea or green tea, all are helpful in reducing inflammation in the body. This is due to the presence of the polyphenols that foster an anti-inflammatory action to the body when consumed on a regular basis. Teas also help in enhancing your immune system, thereby reducing the risk of many ailments that are caused by low immunity. Tea is known to improve the concentration of T-cells in the body which increases the ability of the immune system to fight better against infections, both viral and bacterial.

9. Helps reduce your risk of blindness
Drinking tea on a regular basis is a great way to maintain your vision. Teas have been found to be highly beneficial for reducing the progression of cataract and keep your eye lenses in good form. Black tea and green tea contain a high concentration of antioxidants that may help in reducing the chances of cataracts and prevent blindness.

10. Fights Cancer
According to the National Cancer Institute, tea may greatly help in the prevention of cancer. The polyphenolic compounds present in green tea such as EGCG as well as the theaflavins present in black tea are high in antioxidants. Therefore, these compounds have a protective action on the body. They help in preventing DNA damage and reduce the risk of cancer. The detoxification action of green tea may inhibit the development of tumors in the body. The polyphenols present in teas have also been found to hinder proliferation of the tumor cells.
Teas can be highly beneficial for the health when consumed in moderate amounts. The effect of tea on your body will depend on which tea you choose to drink. It is important to know that tea contains caffeine in small amounts. Black tea contains a higher amount of caffeine as compared to other teas. The caffeine content in teas also depends on the time of brewing. The more you brew, the more caffeine gets extracted in your tea. Green tea and white tea has less amount of caffeine present in it. If the caffeine content affects your health, you may choose white teas and steep them for a shorter time to reduce the caffeine content.

Note: CysterWigs is in no way recommending that you use tea to treat any ailments. If you are experiencing any issues, please talk to your doctor.

Resources
https://www.webmd.com/diet/features/tea-types-and-their-health-benefits#1
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HOW STRESS AFFECTS THE SKIN

 
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Stress is present in our daily lives. The pressure at work, family problems, difficulties in studies, etc. are some stressors that can adversely affect your appearance and body as a whole. Stress negatively affects us everyday thanks to the frenetic pace of life and the high levels of self-imposed activities to which we are subjected. Thus, in times of increased workload, our skin might be dull, lifeless, have enlarged pores or even be quite red. Also, one of the worst consequences of stressed skin is the decrease of its protective barrier, so it becomes fragile and more sensitive to external aggressions.

How stress affects the skin

Stress can trigger a chemical reaction in the body to become more sensitive and reactive. Have you observed that when you’re stressed, you get more pimples? This is because the skin produces more cortisol and other hormones in your body, which tells the sebaceous glands to produce more fat, which causes acne and other conditions. Stress can worsen existing skin problems such as:

Psoriasis – a condition that occurs when cells grow too fast causing irritation
Rosacea – a condition that produces permanent redness, swelling, pimples, and visible veins
Eczema – a condition that causes redness, swelling, and itching. It is common for people with skin conditions to feel insecure and thereby experience more stress, making the problem worse.

Stress can also trigger an adverse effect on the barrier function of the skin, thereby causing water loss and reducing the skin’s ability to heal itself especially after an injury has occurred. This can be evident in people with pre-existing skin conditions such as psoriasis or eczema, as it slows the entire healing process down. It also dries out the skin. Depending on your body’s reaction to the increased production of cortisol, your skin can end up becoming too dry. Cortisol can hinder the elasticity of the skin and water retention, thus dehydrating your dermis.

Remedies

Relax your mind. Many stressed people forget that they can embody a way of life that limits stress altogether. It is essential you take time every day to meditate or relax. Even taking a few deep breaths can help ease stress.

Nourish your body. Eat a healthy diet rich in whole grains and whole fruits and vegetables. Fish containing omega-3 fatty acids, such as salmon, mackerel and herring is especially suitable for your skin.

Exercise. Physical activity boosts circulation, which battles the effects that adrenaline can have on the skin. In other words, physical activity helps your complexion. When there is more blood flow to the skin, there are also fewer toxins, less cellulite and more healthy, radiant-looking skin.

Sleep. Sleep plays a vital role in limiting cortisol. During sleep, our skin repairs what has been damaged during the day. Make sure you get at least seven hours of sleep for healthy stress-free skin.

To Sum Things Up…

The correct way to minimize stress is to live healthily: sleep well, hydrate and have a fixed work routine that is pleasant as possible. Say goodbye to stress and give way to healthy skin full of life — hydrated and perfectly renewed!


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How To Live A More Fearless Life

 
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Your life would be much more exciting and enjoyable if you could be a little more courageous.

Do you feel this way?

Do you wonder how you could muster the courage to just accomplish everyday things? Don’t worry, you’re not alone. Many of us struggle with fear in our day-to-day lives.

We remain in dysfunctional relationships, go to work at jobs we hate, and we avoid pursuing our dreams. Why? The culprit is fear, crippling and paralyzing fear.

What is fear exactly? The Oxford dictionary has a simple definition of the word fear. Fear is “an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain or harm.”

Motivational speaker Les Brown once said, “Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” So, how do you live a fearless life in a world where there is so much to make us afraid? Well, let me show you the way.

Be a warrior, not a worrier

A warrior does not wait for the war to begin preparing for battle. You train for combat in times of peace. It is a good idea to start teaching your mind to be fearless before you have to face a fearful situation. A worrier is one who wastes precious time and energy meditating on things they cannot change.

For example, you cannot control what people think about you so don’t worry about it. Be a warrior and have a plan for dealing with your fears before they sneak up on you. A well-known saying is that “courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph of it.”

Train your mind

How do you train your mind to be fearless? You need to rid it of negative thought patterns that say “you can’t do that”, or “you’ll never be good enough.” If you have no one to encourage you, my friend, I urge you to begin to encourage yourself.

Say positive things to yourself and give your inner warrior some positive affirmation. If you are a worrier, you might do a lot of meditating. If not, give it a try. When you meditate, choose to focus on the positive. This will do wonders for your self-esteem.

Distract yourself with something fun

For a chronic worrier, it is easy to pass an entire day obsessing about a problem. I’ve been there. There’s something that can give chronic worriers a little bit of relief. That thing is fun. Do something that you truly enjoy doing or try something new. You can even teach yourself a new skill or take up a new hobby. You may want to learn how to make a certain craft or learn a different language. The self-confidence you will gain from educating yourself will be remarkable.

Take care of your vessel

Research shows a well-balanced diet and regular exercise is good for your health. It can do wonders for both your physical and mental health.

As the saying goes, “you are what you eat.” It is right in the sense that if you eat junk all the time, you’ll begin to feel like junk. So, make good choices.

Exercise enhances your mood and gives you the benefit of a fantastic physique. So, take a walk or join a gym. This step alone can increase your sense of accomplishment. You will also experience a boost in your confidence.

Focus on the possibilities and positive outcomes

Focus on the positive outcomes. Rather than thinking about every little thing that can go wrong, consider what can go right. Think about what you can learn.

Switching up your outlook can help you get excited about new possibilities. Then you can be on your way to living your best life—a fearless life. You can add more excitement to your life if you allow yourself to experience something unusual each day!

View fear as a challenge

Think of fear as the stepping stone to something great. If you can get yourself to take action even while you are afraid, you’ve taken a step towards a more fulfilling life. Of course, it makes sense to challenge yourself to do things that can actually improve your life.

You can live a fearless life and experience many more rewarding experiences. Use your fears to propel you towards your dreams.

Start today by doing something you’ve always wanted to do but didn’t quite have the courage. Relax and do it. Prove to yourself that you can overcome that critical inner voice and accomplish anything.

BE COMFORTABLE IN YOUR OWN SKIN

 
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We live in a dangerous place. And by “dangerous” I mean ideal. A place where some things, people or situations have been deemed “the only acceptable type’’; a place where there is no room for improvement or diversity. This is a dangerous way to view life or live life because it gives no room for originality.

People who aren’t the “ideal type” are often seen as odd or weird. And when you’re odd or weird, you might be considered an outsider or a freak. It’s sad. If that’s ever happened to you, please know that you’re fine the way you are. If you’re happy with your life and comfortable with who you are, then more power to you! I’m pretty sure you also know that people who are quick to label are usually unhappy about their own lives.

Being comfortable in your own skin means that you’re unapologetic about how you live your life. If you like to wear flip flops year-round, good for you. If you like to keep to yourself, there’s nothing wrong with that. You probably know that already. You’ve also probably heard countless friends or family members call you weird for doing things outside of their norm. It can be tough, but just ignore them and do what makes you happy.

Don’t Shadow Other People’s Lives

It’s okay to be unique. I know sometimes it is advisable to have role models and people we hold in high esteem. It’s okay to be inspired by them, but don’t ever feel like you need to copy their lifestyles and make them your own. To grow as individual you have to experience life on your own terms. But this can’t happen if you’re trying to be someone else.

Seriously, It Doesn’t Matter What They Think

Like I said, it is a dangerous world we live in. But in order to live a life you’ll be proud of, you need to stop caring about what people think of you. No matter the skin type or body type or gender you are, you are special and you matter. It is the first motto you should live by. You’re in charge of your life and letting other people decide everything for you is just going to ruin any chance you have in discovering and embracing yourself.

#GoodVibesOnly

This might be a little bit underrated but it’s true that the things and people who surround us influence our behavior and lifestyle. So surround yourself with people you can trust, people who care about your mental health and people who want to see you grow comfortable and flourish in your own being.