How To Live A More Fearless Life

By CysterWigs Contributor

Your life would be much more exciting and enjoyable if you could be a little more courageous.

Do you feel this way?

Do you wonder how you could muster the courage to just accomplish everyday things? Don’t worry, you’re not alone. Many of us struggle with fear in our day-to-day lives.

We remain in dysfunctional relationships, go to work at jobs we hate, and we avoid pursuing our dreams. Why? The culprit is fear, crippling and paralyzing fear.

What is fear exactly? The Oxford dictionary has a simple definition of the word fear. Fear is “an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain or harm.”

Motivational speaker Les Brown once said, “Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” So, how do you live a fearless life in a world where there is so much to make us afraid? Well, let me show you the way.

Be a warrior, not a worrier

A warrior does not wait for the war to begin preparing for battle. You train for combat in times of peace. It is a good idea to start teaching your mind to be fearless before you have to face a fearful situation. A worrier is one who wastes precious time and energy meditating on things they cannot change.

For example, you cannot control what people think about you so don’t worry about it. Be a warrior and have a plan for dealing with your fears before they sneak up on you. A well-known saying is that “courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph of it.”

Train your mind

How do you train your mind to be fearless? You need to rid it of negative thought patterns that say “you can’t do that”, or “you’ll never be good enough.” If you have no one to encourage you, my friend, I urge you to begin to encourage yourself.

Say positive things to yourself and give your inner warrior some positive affirmation. If you are a worrier, you might do a lot of meditating. If not, give it a try. When you meditate, choose to focus on the positive. This will do wonders for your self-esteem.

Distract yourself with something fun

For a chronic worrier, it is easy to pass an entire day obsessing about a problem. I’ve been there. There’s something that can give chronic worriers a little bit of relief. That thing is fun. Do something that you truly enjoy doing or try something new. You can even teach yourself a new skill or take up a new hobby. You may want to learn how to make a certain craft or learn a different language. The self-confidence you will gain from educating yourself will be remarkable.

Take care of your vessel

Research shows a well-balanced diet and regular exercise is good for your health. It can do wonders for both your physical and mental health.

As the saying goes, “you are what you eat.” It is right in the sense that if you eat junk all the time, you’ll begin to feel like junk. So, make good choices.

Exercise enhances your mood and gives you the benefit of a fantastic physique. So, take a walk or join a gym. This step alone can increase your sense of accomplishment. You will also experience a boost in your confidence.

Focus on the possibilities and positive outcomes

Focus on the positive outcomes. Rather than thinking about every little thing that can go wrong, consider what can go right. Think about what you can learn.

Switching up your outlook can help you get excited about new possibilities. Then you can be on your way to living your best life—a fearless life. You can add more excitement to your life if you allow yourself to experience something unusual each day!

View fear as a challenge

Think of fear as the stepping stone to something great. If you can get yourself to take action even while you are afraid, you’ve taken a step towards a more fulfilling life. Of course, it makes sense to challenge yourself to do things that can actually improve your life.

You can live a fearless life and experience many more rewarding experiences. Use your fears to propel you towards your dreams.

Start today by doing something you’ve always wanted to do but didn’t quite have the courage. Relax and do it. Prove to yourself that you can overcome that critical inner voice and accomplish anything.

How to Find Support for Hair Loss

By CysterWigs Contributor

Dealing with hair loss can be super isolating, but it doesn’t have to be a journey that you take alone. Many people out there are looking for ways to help manage their hair loss.

Whether it is caused by hormonal changes, stress, medicine, or other factors, please understand that you’re not going through it alone. In 2017, approximately 35 million men and 21 million women suffered from hair loss in the United States. What does that mean for you? It means you are in good company. While your lives may be different, you can still learn a great deal from the experiences of others. Below are a few tips to help you find your tribe so you can connect over hair loss—or completely get away from it, if you want to.

Online

The best way to find others is to visit Google. Type in the name of your condition or type of hair loss along with support group and your local area to see if anything pops up

Eg: Female pattern hair loss support group in Texas

Instagram and YouTube are great sources as well. Use hashtags or keywords to seek out people with similar conditions. Pinterest and hair loss-related message boards can also help you find people without having to do so in person. You can also search YouTube for vloggers who talk about hair loss. With YouTube, you can watch videos whenever it suits you in the comfort of your own home. It’s perfect for people who don’t always want to be around other people, but still want some sort of human connection. And don’t forget Facebook. There are a lot of groups on there. If you don’t find one, why not start one for people in your area!

In Person

If you were formally diagnosed with hair loss, ask your doctor if he or she knows about any hair loss support groups, or knows of any other patients who are open and willing to talk to others about their condition. Doctors, dermatologists, trichologists, and hairstylists work with a lot of people who have similar, if not the same conditions. They might be willing to set something up or they might know about events that you can attend.

Meetup and Eventbrite

There is a group for everyone and everything. Even if you decide not to join one focused on hair loss, there are so many others that you may find interesting and they’re usually free or low cost. So, check out local event or group sites like Meetup or Eventbrite to see what’s happening around you.

Last but not least, don’t be afraid to speak out. Even though we might feel isolated, many people have similar trials to bear. Speaking about your experiences can often lead to newly formed friendships, as truly you never know what someone else is experiencing. So, don’t be afraid to share your truth.

My First Year in Wigs: What I have learned – Part Three by Rachel

Part 3. It’s a great idea to try a low density wig as your first wig.

Well I just finished up my very first full year of wearing wigs! It has been QUITE a journey and I’ve learned what works and what doesn’t work for me. Here’s another thing that I’ve learned during the past year.

Most of my friends knew I started wearing wigs due to alopecia. But people who I didn’t see on a regular basis couldn’t help but notice the TOTAL change in density of my hair. So I was questioned quite a bit. I was always honest and open with my hair loss, and had no problem explaining that I started wearing wigs. I also knew that not everyone would be comfortable with me telling them about my wigs. This is why I suggest that first-time wig owners look into some low density options for your first wig!

For years, wig manufacturers have used permatease when making wigs. The permatease is there for a reason. It actually gives the wigs have some style and lift, but the main reason it’s there is to ensure that no one sees the wefts of hair on wigs. It helps disguise some of the wefts when you style your wig.

Although permatease and high density in wigs can be helpful for styling and disguising wefts, it also makes it look like you have a LOT of hair. In some cases it can even cause your wig to look wiggy. Some people prefer permatease. Especially long-time wig wearers because they’re used to buying wigs when high density and permatease wigs were all that were available from wig manufacturers.

Well, the times have changed and wig manufacturers have caught on to the fact that many new wig wearers these days want ultimate realism when it comes to wearing wigs. This is where low density wigs have come into play. Low density wigs have little to no permatease and sometimes just have less fibers sewn into the wig as well. The low density helps the wigs look more natural since it’s closer to most people’s bio hair density. This makes the transition to wearing wigs a little easier since a low density wig will more closely match the hair density you had prior to hair loss. Low density wigs are also less detectable to the the untrained eye, aka, people who might be more prone to ask questions about your new hair.

Sometimes, wigs with lower density must be carefully styled since there is a greater chance of “weft visibility” if the fibers aren’t perfectly placed. Please keep this in mind if you are interested in a lower density wig.

So in a nutshell, low density wigs might make transitioning from no wigs/bio hair to wearing wigs much easier! Give it a try!

Here is a link to low density wigs at Cysterwigs:

My personal low density favs:
Arrow by Ellen Wille
Code Mono by Ellen Wille
Arya by Tony of Beverly
On Edge by Gabor (Make sure to watch the youtube reviews on this style! It looks much different than the manufacturer’s photos)
Codi XO by Amore


You can see all of Rachel’s posts here. Part one of the series is located here and part two is here.

How to Talk About Hair Loss

By CysterWigs Contributor

It can be hard enough when you look in the mirror and see that you are losing your hair, but it can be even harder when you’re trying and failing to hide it from others. Whether it is a slight upwards glance during a conversation or full blown unsolicited advice, you need to get comfortable talking about hair loss and you might need to do it fast.

Nobody wants to talk about something that’s affecting their self esteem. But the topic of hair loss might have the boldest strangers engaging with you. If you’re lucky, it will be a shared moment where they offer comfort using their own experience. On the other hand, you could be bombarded with questions and advice that might be rude or even useless.

Here are a few tips to help you navigate around this touchy subject.

Set your boundaries

This is easier to do with close friends and family than people you don’t know. Initially, when you start to notice your hair loss, then you can decide if you want to talk to those close to you individually or as a group to let them know what you are going through. You can use this time to explain that you are dealing with your hair loss in the best way that you see fit.

During this time, you may choose to seek out their advice, or you might want to ask that people refrain from giving you any. However you choose to approach it, make sure that you are very clear and do not let anyone make you feel bad about your decision.

Be honest

You often find through conversation that many people have been down the same road as you. If the opportunity arises, use your current situation to educate others within reason, but also bear in mind that you don’t really have to explain yourself to anyone.

Don’t take it personally

There will be stares and people who make harsh comments, but remember, this is a reflection of them rather than you. Never internalize other people’s thoughts or feelings and stay strong in knowing that your hair is only a small part of who you are.

And if all else fails you could always make a t-shirt stating the facts or hand out business cards with all the information you want to give out about your hair loss, saving you having to tell the same story time and time again. Hey if you’re bold enough, it couldn’t hurt. 😉

How To Cope With Hair Loss

Losing your hair can be a very difficult life event. You might feel isolated or like nobody understands what you’re going through. But honestly, more than 80% of people will experience some form of hair loss during their lifetime. So that means you are not alone.

Hair loss can occur for a number of reasons–many of those reasons are even out of your control. But the process can still bring about feelings of shame and embarrassment, especially if you feel like your hair styling options are very limited. Thanks to wigs and toppers, you actually do have two solid options for helping to restore your confidence despite your hair loss. If you haven’t considered them before, it’s time that you do.

Wearing a wig or even a topper is not a last resort. Instead, it’s a way to take back your strength and prove that hair loss doesn’t have any power over you.

Even if you don’t choose to cover your hair, know that your story can be an inspiration and help build courage in yourself and others. Remember, you are more than your hair and losing it should not stop you from living the life you want or deserve.

After the initial period of adjustment, many women find that they have tapped into a new reserve of resilience that they never knew they had. They are able to seek solutions to problems that once would have rattled them much easier.

So don’t see hair loss as the end. Instead, look at it as the beginning of a new chapter. It’s up to you to decide exactly what the story will be. There is hope, there are options and you will always be the same person–hair or not.

The great thing about wigs and toppers is that they’re not just for people experiencing hair loss. They’re for anyone who wants to change their style. So just because you have a few wigs in your closet, does not mean they are a beacon to let people know what’s going on. They also shouldn’t be viewed as a negative. In fact, wigs are constructed so well these days that most people won’t even realize that you’re wearing one. And even if they do, they will never know your reason for wearing one–unless you want them to.

Instead of seeing this as a method to cover your hair loss, use it as a tool to showcase your personality and your strength. Whether you choose to go with extravagant styles or keep it as simple and as close to your previous hairstyle, your wig is only as important as you want it to be and does not define you.

Some people’s hair will grow back and for others it will be a permanent change, but don’t let it affect your character or hold you back.