Part 3. It’s a great idea to try a low density wig as your first wig.

Well I just finished up my very first full year of wearing wigs! It has been QUITE a journey and I’ve learned what works and what doesn’t work for me. Here’s another thing that I’ve learned during the past year.

Most of my friends knew I started wearing wigs due to alopecia. But people who I didn’t see on a regular basis couldn’t help but notice the TOTAL change in density of my hair. So I was questioned quite a bit. I was always honest and open with my hair loss, and had no problem explaining that I started wearing wigs. I also knew that not everyone would be comfortable with me telling them about my wigs. This is why I suggest that first-time wig owners look into some low density options for your first wig!

For years, wig manufacturers have used permatease when making wigs. The permatease is there for a reason. It actually gives the wigs have some style and lift, but the main reason it’s there is to ensure that no one sees the wefts of hair on wigs. It helps disguise some of the wefts when you style your wig.

Although permatease and high density in wigs can be helpful for styling and disguising wefts, it also makes it look like you have a LOT of hair. In some cases it can even cause your wig to look wiggy. Some people prefer permatease. Especially long-time wig wearers because they’re used to buying wigs when high density and permatease wigs were all that were available from wig manufacturers.

Well, the times have changed and wig manufacturers have caught on to the fact that many new wig wearers these days want ultimate realism when it comes to wearing wigs. This is where low density wigs have come into play. Low density wigs have little to no permatease and sometimes just have less fibers sewn into the wig as well. The low density helps the wigs look more natural since it’s closer to most people’s bio hair density. This makes the transition to wearing wigs a little easier since a low density wig will more closely match the hair density you had prior to hair loss. Low density wigs are also less detectable to the the untrained eye, aka, people who might be more prone to ask questions about your new hair.

Sometimes, wigs with lower density must be carefully styled since there is a greater chance of “weft visibility” if the fibers aren’t perfectly placed. Please keep this in mind if you are interested in a lower density wig.

So in a nutshell, low density wigs might make transitioning from no wigs/bio hair to wearing wigs much easier! Give it a try!

Here is a link to low density wigs at Cysterwigs:

My personal low density favs:
Arrow by Ellen Wille
Code Mono by Ellen Wille
Arya by Tony of Beverly
On Edge by Gabor (Make sure to watch the youtube reviews on this style! It looks much different than the manufacturer’s photos)
Codi XO by Amore


You can see all of Rachel’s posts here. Part one of the series is located here and part two is here.

By CysterWigs Contributor

It can be hard enough when you look in the mirror and see that you are losing your hair, but it can be even harder when you’re trying and failing to hide it from others. Whether it is a slight upwards glance during a conversation or full blown unsolicited advice, you need to get comfortable talking about hair loss and you might need to do it fast.

Nobody wants to talk about something that’s affecting their self esteem. But the topic of hair loss might have the boldest strangers engaging with you. If you’re lucky, it will be a shared moment where they offer comfort using their own experience. On the other hand, you could be bombarded with questions and advice that might be rude or even useless.

Here are a few tips to help you navigate around this touchy subject.

Set your boundaries

This is easier to do with close friends and family than people you don’t know. Initially, when you start to notice your hair loss, then you can decide if you want to talk to those close to you individually or as a group to let them know what you are going through. You can use this time to explain that you are dealing with your hair loss in the best way that you see fit.

During this time, you may choose to seek out their advice, or you might want to ask that people refrain from giving you any. However you choose to approach it, make sure that you are very clear and do not let anyone make you feel bad about your decision.

Be honest

You often find through conversation that many people have been down the same road as you. If the opportunity arises, use your current situation to educate others within reason, but also bear in mind that you don’t really have to explain yourself to anyone.

Don’t take it personally

There will be stares and people who make harsh comments, but remember, this is a reflection of them rather than you. Never internalize other people’s thoughts or feelings and stay strong in knowing that your hair is only a small part of who you are.

And if all else fails you could always make a t-shirt stating the facts or hand out business cards with all the information you want to give out about your hair loss, saving you having to tell the same story time and time again. Hey if you’re bold enough, it couldn’t hurt. 😉

Losing your hair can be a very difficult life event. You might feel isolated or like nobody understands what you’re going through. But honestly, more than 80% of people will experience some form of hair loss during their lifetime. So that means you are not alone.

Hair loss can occur for a number of reasons–many of those reasons are even out of your control. But the process can still bring about feelings of shame and embarrassment, especially if you feel like your hair styling options are very limited. Thanks to wigs and toppers, you actually do have two solid options for helping to restore your confidence despite your hair loss. If you haven’t considered them before, it’s time that you do.

Wearing a wig or even a topper is not a last resort. Instead, it’s a way to take back your strength and prove that hair loss doesn’t have any power over you.

Even if you don’t choose to cover your hair, know that your story can be an inspiration and help build courage in yourself and others. Remember, you are more than your hair and losing it should not stop you from living the life you want or deserve.

After the initial period of adjustment, many women find that they have tapped into a new reserve of resilience that they never knew they had. They are able to seek solutions to problems that once would have rattled them much easier.

So don’t see hair loss as the end. Instead, look at it as the beginning of a new chapter. It’s up to you to decide exactly what the story will be. There is hope, there are options and you will always be the same person–hair or not.

The great thing about wigs and toppers is that they’re not just for people experiencing hair loss. They’re for anyone who wants to change their style. So just because you have a few wigs in your closet, does not mean they are a beacon to let people know what’s going on. They also shouldn’t be viewed as a negative. In fact, wigs are constructed so well these days that most people won’t even realize that you’re wearing one. And even if they do, they will never know your reason for wearing one–unless you want them to.

Instead of seeing this as a method to cover your hair loss, use it as a tool to showcase your personality and your strength. Whether you choose to go with extravagant styles or keep it as simple and as close to your previous hairstyle, your wig is only as important as you want it to be and does not define you.

Some people’s hair will grow back and for others it will be a permanent change, but don’t let it affect your character or hold you back.

By Morgan

The dating game isn’t the easiest to play. There’s a lot of effort that goes into the first few months of getting to know people and choosing how much information you give up in the process (old exes, your punk rock phase or the slight obsession that you have with cats) is ultimately up to you. But there are a few things you should never be shy about. One of those things is how you express yourself. And self-expression includes your wigs.

Dating with Wigs

When it comes to your makeup, shoes, clothes and accessories, you should feel completely comfortable with flaunting your innate style with anyone surrounding you! And the same rules apply if you like to wear wigs.

Wigs, like any other accessory, outfit, or hairstyle, are a part of your personality. And they’re becoming increasingly popular not just for hair loss, but for stylistic flexibility that allows for both men and women to bounce between looks. And when it comes to dating, just like removable makeup, wigs are just another extension of yourself.

Finding Confidence While Dating with a Wig

If you’re a little nervous about how your date will react to you wearing a wig, you can arm yourself with the basic fact that a wig is just another element of style. It’s as simple as that.

But honestly, there’s no need to explain yourself. In any dating situation, if the opposite party doesn’t accept you for who you are or what you wear, it’s time to move on and find someone better. Because odds are, their own lacking confidence and questioning the decisions of those around them isn’t going to be a great contributor to a new relationship.

Already Dating Someone and Want to Start Experimenting With Wigs?

If you’ve been wanting to step into the wig world and see what this delightfully hairy business is all about, you may have been a bit nervous to begin—especially if you already have a partner. Wondering what they’d think about you wanting to try a wig may be preventing you from taking new stylish steps.

When you’re feeling up to the conversation, it’ll be much easier than you think. It can go like this:

“I wanted to start exploring different hairstyles, and have been thinking about trying out a few different wigs or wig toppers. How do you feel about that?”

Odds are, there will be no hesitation. But if you get any negative pushback, that’s a bit of a relationship red flag. Remember that if you want to do something—wear a wig, get a piercing, or take up something new—don’t let anyone or anything hold you back. Stick to your roots, and let your true self shine through!


You can see all of Morgan’s posts here.

I want to let it be known that this is a place where we should all come together to be supportive of one another in our respective hair journeys, whether or not we support (or understand) each others’ life paths. This could be a fabulous opportunity to learn from one another, provided we maintain respect for each other’s boundaries.

That goes both ways, y’all. No preachy stuff, but in exchange, give folks space if it seems like they need it; they’ll come around in their own time or they won’t – that’s their right

I’ve always been under the impression that the best way to foster compassion is to show people just how loving and caring you are instead of just focusing on all the things you disagree about. You have hopes, dreams, and people in your life you care very deeply about. You’re a complete package, and by sharing these parts of yourself in casual encounters, the commonalities between you and those you think you have so little in common with become much more difficult to ignore!

I feel like we can love each other and suspend judgement . . . and make this about helping each other feel our best during the times in our lives when we may physically and emotionally feel our worst. We can lift each other up to help each other feel our most beautiful. How cool is that? 🙂


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