Where is the Forum?

 
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For the time being, the CysterWigs community has been disabled. (We’ve noticed some low usage stats.) No worries though! You can still chat with other wig lovers at on our private Facebook Group, Moon Kitty Mixup. Just click this link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/moonkittymixup/


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Why we should be considerate of folks with Trich!

 
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I’m not going to attach specific trigger warnings to these . . . but just know that this may contain potential trich triggers.

(It might be worth it, though.)

Trichotillomania (trick-o-til-o-MAY-nee-ah) is a disorder that causes people to pull out the hair from their scalp, eyelashes, eyebrows, pubic area, underarms, beard, chest, legs or other parts of the body, resulting in noticeable bald patches. Hair pulling varies greatly in its severity, location on the body, and response to treatment. For some people, at some times, trichotillomania is mild and can be quelled with a bit of extra awareness and concentration. For others, at times the urge may be so strong that it makes thinking of anything else nearly impossible.

People pull for all sorts of reasons and the cause (and triggers) for this behavior vary greatly from person to person.

Trichotillomania (also referred to as TTM or “trich”) is currently defined as an obsessive-compulsive related disorder but there are still questions about how it should be classified.

For many people, trich can seem to resemble a habit, an addiction, a tic disorder or obsessive-compulsive disorder.

Most recently, it is being conceptualized as part of a family of “body-focused repetitive behaviors” (BFRBs) along with skin picking and nail biting.

For a large proportion of people with trich (though not all), this is a type of behavior used to alleviate anxiety or distress.

Because of this, we always exercise compassion and reserve judgement when talking to trich clients. (We promise.)

I think we (as in, folks with hormonal, auto-immune, or chemical-induced alopecia) need to understand that folks with trich are not “bringing it upon themselves” and they deserve our understanding and awareness of their condition.

Trich thrives in silence and is amplified by shame. So we’re just going to keep on talking about it. 😉

CysterWigs may be a website that caters to women with PCOS-related hair loss . . . but we can still be supportive of women (and men!) around us who need a little understanding and love. This is a really common condition that doesn’t get talked about very often in wig circles because of the stigma. I just want y’all to know: we’ve got your back. <3

For what it’s worth:

This condition is treatable!

One really great resource is the Trichotillomania Learning Center (TLC): http://www.trich.org/index.html


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How To Live A More Fearless Life

 
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By CysterWigs Contributor

Your life would be much more exciting and enjoyable if you could be a little more courageous.

Do you feel this way?

Do you wonder how you could muster the courage to just accomplish everyday things? Don’t worry, you’re not alone. Many of us struggle with fear in our day-to-day lives.

We remain in dysfunctional relationships, go to work at jobs we hate, and we avoid pursuing our dreams. Why? The culprit is fear, crippling and paralyzing fear.

What is fear exactly? The Oxford dictionary has a simple definition of the word fear. Fear is “an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain or harm.”

Motivational speaker Les Brown once said, “Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” So, how do you live a fearless life in a world where there is so much to make us afraid? Well, let me show you the way.

Be a warrior, not a worrier

A warrior does not wait for the war to begin preparing for battle. You train for combat in times of peace. It is a good idea to start teaching your mind to be fearless before you have to face a fearful situation. A worrier is one who wastes precious time and energy meditating on things they cannot change.

For example, you cannot control what people think about you so don’t worry about it. Be a warrior and have a plan for dealing with your fears before they sneak up on you. A well-known saying is that “courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph of it.”

Train your mind

How do you train your mind to be fearless? You need to rid it of negative thought patterns that say “you can’t do that”, or “you’ll never be good enough.” If you have no one to encourage you, my friend, I urge you to begin to encourage yourself.

Say positive things to yourself and give your inner warrior some positive affirmation. If you are a worrier, you might do a lot of meditating. If not, give it a try. When you meditate, choose to focus on the positive. This will do wonders for your self-esteem.

Distract yourself with something fun

For a chronic worrier, it is easy to pass an entire day obsessing about a problem. I’ve been there. There’s something that can give chronic worriers a little bit of relief. That thing is fun. Do something that you truly enjoy doing or try something new. You can even teach yourself a new skill or take up a new hobby. You may want to learn how to make a certain craft or learn a different language. The self-confidence you will gain from educating yourself will be remarkable.

Take care of your vessel

Research shows a well-balanced diet and regular exercise is good for your health. It can do wonders for both your physical and mental health.

As the saying goes, “you are what you eat.” It is right in the sense that if you eat junk all the time, you’ll begin to feel like junk. So, make good choices.

Exercise enhances your mood and gives you the benefit of a fantastic physique. So, take a walk or join a gym. This step alone can increase your sense of accomplishment. You will also experience a boost in your confidence.

Focus on the possibilities and positive outcomes

Focus on the positive outcomes. Rather than thinking about every little thing that can go wrong, consider what can go right. Think about what you can learn.

Switching up your outlook can help you get excited about new possibilities. Then you can be on your way to living your best life—a fearless life. You can add more excitement to your life if you allow yourself to experience something unusual each day!

View fear as a challenge

Think of fear as the stepping stone to something great. If you can get yourself to take action even while you are afraid, you’ve taken a step towards a more fulfilling life. Of course, it makes sense to challenge yourself to do things that can actually improve your life.

You can live a fearless life and experience many more rewarding experiences. Use your fears to propel you towards your dreams.

Start today by doing something you’ve always wanted to do but didn’t quite have the courage. Relax and do it. Prove to yourself that you can overcome that critical inner voice and accomplish anything.

How to Find Support for Hair Loss

 
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By CysterWigs Contributor

Dealing with hair loss can be super isolating, but it doesn’t have to be a journey that you take alone. Many people out there are looking for ways to help manage their hair loss.

Whether it is caused by hormonal changes, stress, medicine, or other factors, please understand that you’re not going through it alone. In 2017, approximately 35 million men and 21 million women suffered from hair loss in the United States. What does that mean for you? It means you are in good company. While your lives may be different, you can still learn a great deal from the experiences of others. Below are a few tips to help you find your tribe so you can connect over hair loss—or completely get away from it, if you want to.

Online

The best way to find others is to visit Google. Type in the name of your condition or type of hair loss along with support group and your local area to see if anything pops up

Eg: Female pattern hair loss support group in Texas

Instagram and YouTube are great sources as well. Use hashtags or keywords to seek out people with similar conditions. Pinterest and hair loss-related message boards can also help you find people without having to do so in person. You can also search YouTube for vloggers who talk about hair loss. With YouTube, you can watch videos whenever it suits you in the comfort of your own home. It’s perfect for people who don’t always want to be around other people, but still want some sort of human connection. And don’t forget Facebook. There are a lot of groups on there. If you don’t find one, why not start one for people in your area!

In Person

If you were formally diagnosed with hair loss, ask your doctor if he or she knows about any hair loss support groups, or knows of any other patients who are open and willing to talk to others about their condition. Doctors, dermatologists, trichologists, and hairstylists work with a lot of people who have similar, if not the same conditions. They might be willing to set something up or they might know about events that you can attend.

Meetup and Eventbrite

There is a group for everyone and everything. Even if you decide not to join one focused on hair loss, there are so many others that you may find interesting and they’re usually free or low cost. So, check out local event or group sites like Meetup or Eventbrite to see what’s happening around you.

Last but not least, don’t be afraid to speak out. Even though we might feel isolated, many people have similar trials to bear. Speaking about your experiences can often lead to newly formed friendships, as truly you never know what someone else is experiencing. So, don’t be afraid to share your truth.

My First Year in Wigs: What I have learned – Part Three by Rachel

 
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Part 3. It’s a great idea to try a low density wig as your first wig.

Well I just finished up my very first full year of wearing wigs! It has been QUITE a journey and I’ve learned what works and what doesn’t work for me. Here’s another thing that I’ve learned during the past year.

Most of my friends knew I started wearing wigs due to alopecia. But people who I didn’t see on a regular basis couldn’t help but notice the TOTAL change in density of my hair. So I was questioned quite a bit. I was always honest and open with my hair loss, and had no problem explaining that I started wearing wigs. I also knew that not everyone would be comfortable with me telling them about my wigs. This is why I suggest that first-time wig owners look into some low density options for your first wig!

For years, wig manufacturers have used permatease when making wigs. The permatease is there for a reason. It actually gives the wigs have some style and lift, but the main reason it’s there is to ensure that no one sees the wefts of hair on wigs. It helps disguise some of the wefts when you style your wig.

Although permatease and high density in wigs can be helpful for styling and disguising wefts, it also makes it look like you have a LOT of hair. In some cases it can even cause your wig to look wiggy. Some people prefer permatease. Especially long-time wig wearers because they’re used to buying wigs when high density and permatease wigs were all that were available from wig manufacturers.

Well, the times have changed and wig manufacturers have caught on to the fact that many new wig wearers these days want ultimate realism when it comes to wearing wigs. This is where low density wigs have come into play. Low density wigs have little to no permatease and sometimes just have less fibers sewn into the wig as well. The low density helps the wigs look more natural since it’s closer to most people’s bio hair density. This makes the transition to wearing wigs a little easier since a low density wig will more closely match the hair density you had prior to hair loss. Low density wigs are also less detectable to the the untrained eye, aka, people who might be more prone to ask questions about your new hair.

Sometimes, wigs with lower density must be carefully styled since there is a greater chance of “weft visibility” if the fibers aren’t perfectly placed. Please keep this in mind if you are interested in a lower density wig.

So in a nutshell, low density wigs might make transitioning from no wigs/bio hair to wearing wigs much easier! Give it a try!

Here is a link to low density wigs at Cysterwigs:

My personal low density favs:
Arrow by Ellen Wille
Code Mono by Ellen Wille
Arya by Tony of Beverly
On Edge by Gabor (Make sure to watch the youtube reviews on this style! It looks much different than the manufacturer’s photos)
Codi XO by Amore


You can see all of Rachel’s posts here. Part one of the series is located here and part two is here.