Why I Said Farewell to My Bio Hair

Our funny guest blogger today is Nicole. 🙂

 

Starting Top Left: Ellen Wille Arrow in Caramel Lighted, Raquel Welch Editor’s Pick in SS Golden Wheat, Jon Renau Alessandra in Shaded Peaches and Cream, Jon Renau Courtney in Strawberry Syrup, Belle Madame Angelina Mono SF in Caramel Root, Jon Renau Gisele in Strawberry Syrup (big pic), and Amore Stevie in Maple Sugar

I have a serious problem.  A four letter word.  In fact, it’s my favorite four letter word.  And I know I’m not the only one…there are others of you out there and I want you to know that you’re not alone.

WIGS.

It all started last May.  I’m the type of person that likes to constantly change my hair.  Cut, grow, repeat.  So, I had cut my hair into a pixie the previous fall.  For those of you that have never grown out a pixie cut, I can assure you that it is a nightmare of the highest order.  I have a fair amount of hair, but it’s very fine and half curly, half weird kinky.  I spent a very frustrating 45 or so minutes every morning attempting to transform the hideous mess on my head into something that passed as an actual hairstyle.  It’s a wonder that my children ever made it to school on time.  I had gotten Great Lengths extensions about three and a half months prior to make it look like an asymmetrical bob.  Extensions are fabulous (and very expensive), however, they start sucking around three and half months.  One day they’re seemingly fine…the next you may lose your sh*t if they aren’t gone from your head pronto.  I may have spent a lot of time googling to see if I could remove them myself because my hair appointment was still two more weeks out.  I MAY have smothered them in olive oil and pulled out my handy pliers because I read about a brilliant DIY removal method on Yahoo Answers.  Most mornings ended in tears and definitely with more swearing than when I was pushing out my twins during my crunchy granola natural childbirth.  After that much money, time, and effort, I was STILL never satisfied with my hair.  It was infuriating.  And frustrating.  And I’d had it.

Enter wigs.<insert angels singing, harps playing, and heavenly lights>

I googled wigs.  I started watching wig reviews on Youtube.  I spent HOURS watching wig reviews –  likely more like days when you add it all up.  For a tiny fraction of the cost for one set of bonded extensions that would last maybe 4 months, I could have a wig?  And hair that always looked amazing and perfect? With little to no effort??  Are you freaking kidding me??  Where had wigs been all of my life???

This was really the beginning of the end for me.  I ordered Jon Renau’s Ignite thinking I’d just wear that until my hair got to a manageable length.  I scoff at myself now just thinking back on it.  That I actually thought that one wig would do it.  Then it was Julianne with her beautiful beachy waves.  Alessandra and her luscious layers.  Heidi.  Rachel.  Amber. Radiant Beauty.  Carrie.  I would go on, but honestly, I’m pretty sure I’m premenopausal and my memory has been kinda spotty lately (that’s seriously a thing, google it).

I had hair mail arriving at least once, sometimes twice a week.  You know the high…if I could bottle it I would. My fiancé literally used google to find out if I had a “wig” problem (AS IF) that required an intervention.  Like, for real.  SMH.

In the last 8-9 months I’ve purchased close to probably 30 wigs.  They haven’t all been love, but I’ve found that I can make almost any wig mine.  As someone who thrives on change, wigs have been a gift.  They’ve changed my life enormously.  It is amazing to always have perfect hair, to change the color of my hair on a whim, or to pick the hair that goes best with my outfit – or my mood.  It is precious moments of my life saved that I can use towards things I actually enjoy doing…or sleeping LOL.  I spread the “wig word” to other ladies every chance I can get because I really believe that if more women knew about the amazingness of wigs, the world would be a much happier place.  Because women would surely take over once our time was freed up from all of the hair doing.

It is this that lead me to shave my head last month – well, to beg my fiancé to do it for me.  My bio hair was no longer MY hair.  It was this inconvenient thing that I wasn’t happy with.  Something smooshed under a wig cap all day that looked like crap when I took my wig off.  It was wasted effort.  And most importantly, it was marring the look of my beautiful monotop part LOL.  So, I shaved it.  I was scared I might regret it but I have always been a risk taker.  I’m so glad that I did.  I haven’t regretted it for a second.  I don’t feel any less feminine.  I feel LIBERATED.  And most importantly, my part is flawless.

So, as Taylor Swift would say, sorry bio hair, but…Weeeeeeeee are never, ever, ever, ever, getting back together.  Like EVER.


Notes by Gina from CysterWigs

Thank you Nicole for sharing! I quite enjoyed reading your post.

Styles in photo:
Arrow by Ellen Wille, Editor’s Pick by Raquel WelchAlessandra by Jon Renau, Courtney by Jon Renau, Angelina Mono SF by Belle Madame (this style was available for a limited time only), Gisele by Jon Renau, and Stevie by Amore

Styles mentioned in post:
Ignite by Jon RenauJulianne by Jon RenauAlessandra by Jon Renau, Heidi by Jon RenauRachel by Jon RenauAmber by Jon RenauRadiant Beauty by Gabor, and Carrie Elite by Jon Renau.

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9 Comments

  1. January 17, 2017 / 5:50 pm

    Lol Nicole I feel ya…my hair is so baby fine I’ve struggled for years with it…but what got me into wigs was similar to you..I wanted to grow my hair out to its natural color..simple enough but knew it would take at least a year…so one wig..and I thought that would be it…nope..I think I’m on 18 in 5 months..and seriously contemplately another..ha! You look gorgous..LOVE LOVE the Strawberry Syrup color on you…:-)

    • Nicole
      January 18, 2017 / 11:25 pm

      Thank you, KATHLEEN! 🙂 Wigs are the best ever!! And so addictive!

    • January 19, 2017 / 3:50 am

      Kathleen, do you still plan to grow out your bio hair?

      The life span of wigs are a big eye opener. My mom (with beautifully thick Asian bio hair) thought she could just buy ONE wig so she didn’t have to spend $75 for a hair cut every 6 weeks. I was like, “No Mom. Wigs are actually more expensive!” It’s just so addicting that you can’t stop at one. 😉

      • January 20, 2017 / 6:12 pm

        Lol..yes wigs are expensive..omg your mom is so funny..love it…I am still growing out my hair..yes…I do have a few strands of gray but not much( funny thing no one really gets gray hair in my family) I just keep cutting off the hair at my neck..etc. it grows soooooooo slow..;-)FYI I have about 4″ left of my dyed hair…that will take a year..lol

  2. January 19, 2017 / 3:45 am

    Nicole, if you don’t mind me asking, approximately how expensive are extensions? It always comes up conversations at the salon I go to for waxes.

  3. January 29, 2017 / 6:41 pm

    Nicole, your blog just made me feel SO much better!! I had my hair cut into a pixie about two years ago, (in hair school mind you, I’m a Cosmotologist) and it has been a nightmare trying to grow it back out. Not to mention all of the stress I have been under from neck surgeries and divorce, my hair is just not the same. I have tried many different wigs and styles and just haven’t found the perfect one. I find a lot of the lace fronts to be itchy and it seems like they may be cutting the hair off around my hairline. I just bought Jon Renau’s Scarlett, in Praline and Cream and the roots are WAY to dark for me! I want a real pretty light blonde that looks natural and feels like I don’t have anything on. Do you have any suggestions based on your experience. I really dislike permatease, if that helps! Thank you so much for the post!! Us girls need to stick together!!

    • Lee
      March 17, 2017 / 2:47 pm

      Hi Nicole,
      I just read your bio as well. I can tell you, you made me feel great. After losing mine to lupus and cutting long into a pixie and in a year I’ve lost more, and wear ball caps. I wish you all the best, and keep looking up. But don’t it just make your self esteem dark? Hopefully we can chat one day and get your input on wigs..
      Have a great day
      Lee

    • Lee Smith
      March 17, 2017 / 2:51 pm

      Hi Jeannette,
      Yeah, just read you nice response to Nicole.. That D word can drain you.. “Just remember, never let the music die inside of you” Dr. Wayne Dwyer.. Get up and dance.. whenever and when ever you can.. let the world hear it.. never keep the happiness you have in you inside. I too am going through that, with Lupus and so tired and wish I had hair.. lol don’t we all? Have a great day.. Wish we could meet.
      Lee Smith

  4. Michele
    September 1, 2017 / 5:06 am

    Dear Nicole:

    You just made me laugh hysterically. My bio hair is more like Bi-polar. Wavy on top and frizzy mess elsewhere. It would take once a week at the salon to look remotely normal. Then one drop of rain would ruin my mood after all that investment of time and money ending up like I stuck my finger in a light socket. Wigs emancipated me to the point I am dancing and laughing in the rain. A new lease on life. Six months and 26 wigs later with two wigs still in the boxes! Love your post as I can so relate. ?

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